Post # 1
I wanted to take a quick poll – who is paying for the attire of their bridal party? We have a total of 10 attendants. It is crunch time now and 4 of the attendants have approached us about paying for their outfits. I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man before and it seemed pretty standard that we (the bridal party) paid for our own shoes and dress. Same for the groomsmen. However, the trends could be changing. Trying to figure out how to respond =).
We initally planned to buy ties and earrings as gifts or maybe shoes. Does that sound reasonable?
Post # 3
We are buying ties for the guys and jewelry for the girls (as a part of their gifts). It will be a nice gift they can use again and take some of the burden off of them with “another thing to buy”.
Post # 4
All my Bridesmaid or Best Man bought their own dresses and 2 bought their own shoes. We ran into some shoe issues (going out of stock) and so we’re paying half of the other 2 BM’s shoes (but only b/c their shoes are 60bucks more than the others we wanted)
As for the guys… They paid for ALL their own attire
For their gifts: I’m buying the girls their jewelry & the guys we’re buying a cool watch they can wear for the wedding and day to day
Post # 5
I will not be paying for my bridesmaids dresses or shoes. I have also been a bridesmaid three times and I paid for my dress, shoes, etc each time. I think it’s kind of rude that your bridesmaids assume you are supposed to help pay!
Post # 6
I think it depends on the culture though. Like I know in the Vietnamese culture, or at least most of people I have known that have gotten married, usually the bridal party clothing is paid for which is usually limited to the tux rental and the bridesmaid dresses. So whenever I do get married, I will be paying for my bridal party outfit which is probably be really easy since it will probably be only my little sister.
Post # 7
I voted that they’re paying for their dresses, but my mom actually put $50 towards them because she’s amazing. I’ve been a bridesmaid about three times, though, and I’ve always paid for my own.
Post # 8
I’ve always paid for my own dress when I have been a bridesmaid or maid of honor. FH and I are actually paying for our party though. I told the girls that I am buying the dresses and that if they wanted alterations or anything that would be up to them. We are also going to pay for the groomsmen atire.
Post # 9
Thank you all for your responses. I feel a little better about how to handle the situation. For those who can afford to pay for everything, I think it is a wonderful gesture that shows your appreciation. Our budget does not allow for that, but we will be helping with the cost by purchasing accessories =). Thanks again, Weddingbee’s save the day! =)
Post # 10
I might buy them some jewelry. I am definately making their sashes and their hair flower so they match and don’t cost them a mint. But other than that, they are paying for everything. The only thing I mandated was the dress. They can wear whatever shoes they want, pay for whatever hair, make-up, or nails they want (or don’t want. I don’t really care!) As long as they are pretty and happy at the end of the day, I am good!
Post # 11
I voted that they paid for their own clothing, but we did get ties for the guys and jewelry for the ladies. 🙂
Post # 12
It really varies by bride. My girls paid for their dresses and shoes (I would have loved to have bought them for them but we couldn’t afford it). Then I bought them their jewelery.
Post # 13
If I was having a Bridal Party I would perhaps buy them a piece of jewelry to wear with their outfits.