- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I was just wondering who exactly should be invited. I don’t think anyone in my FI’s family is planning on throwing a shower for me, so I would have one shower.
I’m mainly concerned about my FI’s step-sisters. They’re both almost 30 and my FI didn’t grow up with them. We’ve both only met them a handful of times. One of them (step-sister #1) lives across the country and we haven’t seen her in two years, but we are friends on Facebook and get along when we do see each other.
The other step-sister (step-sister #2) lives about an hour away from us and we haven’t seen her since June and we aren’t friends on Facebook and don’t ever talk. I always feel self-conscious around her, because she’s made some blatantly rude remarks about different things about our wedding and compares our wedding-related decisions to her sisters (saying her sister made better ones and stuff). I just never feel comfortable around her 🙁 I never say anything rude to her or act angry when she says this stuff, I just smile and keep my thoughts to myself.
My FI’s step-mom, his dad, and step-sister #2 recently organized an engagement party for step-sister #1 and my FI and I weren’t invited even though his two other brothers (and the rest of his family – including my FI’s maternal grandma) were 🙁 They never really acknowledged that they didn’t invite us and we found out about the party a couple weeks later when my FBIL mentioned it.
My questions are: Is there any way to only invite certain members of my FI’s family (his step-mom, grandmas, and the aunt that he is close to) and not others? Or is it an all-or-nothing type deal – meaning all the females on the wedding guestlist? Do we still invite step-sister #1 even though I know she won’t be coming back to Ontario until August for her wedding?