(Closed) HELP! Bridesmaids fighting!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

What are the different choices in dresses?  Perhaps there’s a good compromise to come up with.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

That’s a good idea, or get them from the same store like jcrew and say this is the color and material, pick what style you want.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My girls are picking different dresses in the same color from David’s (would’ve gone with different store, but they’re all over the country and in another country).

No matter what, don’t kick anyone out due to weight or ask anyone to lose weight. That’s just wrong.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

has she said what kind of dress she wants to wear?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t understand why they’re even really talking to each other and fighting if you’re letting them pick their own dresses and they don’t have to get the same style.

I’m in a wedding this October and our Bride told us to get a satin dress from David’s Bridal in the color Apple and that it should be tea-length.  That was it.  We’ve all gone seperately without each other and bought dresses and the only communication was to then e-mail the group saying “I got this dress”.  So far no one has gotten the same dress and no one cares what each other is doing.

Why is your one bridesmaid flipping out on the rest?  There MUST be a reason, right?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If i were you I would take 2 of your BMs shopping – one who is thinner and one who is not. Then have them try on dresses that are the same style and try to find one that is universally flattering. The dress we are going with is a Bell Levkoff strapless empire waist dress. It means that it fits the tightests around the boobs and flows out from there. It is universally flattering because it is flowy around the stomach area. Another idea is that you could choose a color (say, from Davids bridal) and tell them they each need to get a dress in that color/fabric in whatever style they prefer.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I fought with the MOH once when I was a BM for my friends wedding. She was awful. She never communicated anything to us or asked us for input and after months of this one day just TOLD us when and where the shower was going to be, and assigned us all things to purchase. I was pissed because we had been trying to discuss this as a group AND I had my own engagement party planned for that same day and ended up having to cancel it. But through all this, I never once mentioned it to the bride. I didn’t want to upset or involve her during such an important time.

And my BM’s also hated the idea of picking their own dresses. They wanted to all wear the same thing so I guess no one stuck out, safety in numbers. But honestly it sounds liek your problem has a simple solution, just give them a color and go somewhere like Davids Bridal where they can choose any style.

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

And that is exactly why mine are wearing different dresses in the same color from David’s Bridal….

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

sweetie it is YOUR wedding… no matter who is paying for it… do what YOU want.
if there is a dress you like…pick it and they will wear it. if the problem is that big of a deal that they refuse to wear a dress YOU picked for YOUR wedding for a few hours then its a big problem… they should respect and support your choice!
OR pick the color AND dress and let them choose sleeve options… that can make a difference with figures and sizes

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

There should be a good middle ground.  I was in a wedding party where we the bride had picked out Davids Bridal F12385 for us because it was very flattering on everyone – we were as small as size 2 and went up to 18.  It worked out nicely and really did look great on everyone.

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Just tell them to all pick a dress in the same color and fabric from a store like other brides suggested and that’s that. Many of my friends try to please everyone and you just can’t so you’re better off just telling them and not continuing the conversation.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

Maybe you could pick the dresses and tell the bridesmaids that since they were unable to pick out dresses that everyone agreed on then you will be picking them.

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