- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
This is the last post that I wanted to post here but, I need you guys’ opinion on this! It’s driving me insane and I need to decide!
I’m going to make this as short as possible since!
Here’s my situation! I can’t decide on where to get married…I have this beautiful rose garden and AMAZING hall booked at the moment on the mainland (I live in Victoria, B.C., Canada)…I’m from the Vancouver area and have family there but I live in Victoria. So, the situation you might ask? I’m a wedding musician and I get to see all these venues all over Victoria (though we did research every option pretty much before booking anything and ended up with the rose garden) and during the wedding season I fell in love with this Winery! Before I go on, I have to mention that we booked our venue in January of this year for our wedding next summer in July! Yes, I was ahead of the game, and excited! Going on…after falling in love with the winery I had to show my fiancée. At first he was reluctant since we already had a venue booked but agreed in the end to take a look at it. He said he wasn’t going to change anything but then he saw it and really like it as well! So, we proceeded to see how much it was cost versus our venue. We would be losing our deposit on on ceremony site and reception site which is only $300…if it was anymore we’d never be in this situation. We would be paying for the loss ourselves as our wedding is paid for. I should mention, both our parents don’t care what we do…it’s up to us!
So, the real problem other than we can’t decide…we seem to have different opinions on wedding styles. I’m more of a party kind of person (and I already have bought a reception dancing dress which was only $20 so no big loss there! got it reduced from $140!) whereas my fianacee, if he was planning the wedding, would have a low key wedding with no big dance party. I’m big into fiddle music and would be having a barn dance for a reception. We can have everything at the winery: ie: ceremony, photos, and a sit down dinner but no dancing. The whole event would be 5 hours or so. That’s his style. My style is totally opposite…I’d have my music (come on, im a musician!!) and have my friends play at my wedding.
You’re probably thinking well, find a hall to go with the winery perhaps…the problem is there is no hall that can top the hall we have already! We have looked for one and there isn’t one that is even close to our hall..even with decorating! (Unless we chose a golf course which is really really expensive!) Oh, btw, our wedding is going to be about 50-60 people! So not huge!
Another thing is, we would have to change our wedding date from the 2nd of July to the 9th which is fine with us…we’d almost prefer to have it not on the long weekend now since a lot of people usually go away during the Canada Day long weekend. That’s the least of our worries though…although we are having to keep our wedding photographer on the line since we have already booked the 2nd but no penalty to change it. We just need to make a decision!
The reason I’m in such a mess here also is that the lady who does the bookings for the winery has been away for two weeks and she said that I’d have to make a decision by today when she’s back and she’s going through here emails, calls, in order and we might not even get the 9th…though she did mention that nobody does any bookings or viewings while she’s gone. I’m not really worried about that but that’s another stresser. Having a time frame to think and sort everything out is stressful!
One more thing I should mention that I love about this winery is that there is a place to get ready on site (it’s a heritage site!) and I would have a marriage commissioner! (I’m lucky to get to see so many weddings then I can pick who I love to perform the ceremony! LOL)…he’s available on our date if we got married in our home town..but if not I have another guy I don’t mind I could call up. It’s hard to pick somebody to marry you because I’ve seen so many terrible marriage commissioner’s.
Anyways, that’s it! I tried to keep it as short as possible but, Bees! HELP! What do you think!!