Post # 1
I am stuck and don’t know what to do anymore! We have a tight budget for the wedding as we have to pay for it ourselves and we just moved into a new house and therefore there isn’t much left for the wedding… But now I found this AMAZING dress!! I can afford it if I spent a lot less on anything else there is left to buy and now I don’t know what to do… Would you go for a less expensive dress so you have more budget for the wedding, or would you go for your ultimate dream dress?! I think I would feel guilty if I spent a fortune on a dress, but if I don’t buy it I might regret it forever and never find a dress that it good enough compared to this one… Help me please! Any advice is soooo welcome and very much appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
If you know taht the dress is absolutely THE dress, I say you should go for it. But it really depends on how much more than your original dress budget we’re talking about…
Post # 4
@pengoala: Well, let’s say it would make a big difference in the budget! haha! But I know what you mean… thanks! 🙂
Post # 5
Just be careful how it may look to your guests. If it’s obvious that you have gone all out on your gown and its clear you have skipped on the food or favors, people wont be impressed.
Post # 6
@garnet2013: Personally I feel that it is the feeling of love in the room having your friends and family share in your marriage that you remember long after your wedding day. I’m not saying the dress isn’t important, but you do have to think about whether you would like a wedding day where you spend a bit more on the food and drinks and your guests and the party aspect, or whether you feel like the dress is the most important thing. Only you can make that decision. For me, the celebration is so important. Whilst I hope to look back on the day and be happy about how I looked, I really want to remember what is was like to have everyone I care about in a room having a great time at my wedding. I think you have to make the decision based on what you would regret least.
Post # 7
I’d go with less. However, do you have pics we could vote on?
Post # 9
Of course it’s all about the most important day of you and your partner and all your family and friends!! Totally agree! And we are not saving on venue/food and drinks as that is already booked, don’t worry!! It would more be on flowers and other decoration… My soon to be father in law has a nice Jaguar, so won’t have to spend any on a wedding car etc as I don’t really care about things like that… aghrrr, I still don’t know… haha! 🙂
Post # 10
Is that the budget or the dream dress? People may be able to help you find a similiar-looking dream dress that costs less.
Post # 12
So far, you’ve identified the two following two options.
You can spend a zillion dollars on your dream dress and feel guilty about cheap-skating the rest.
You can spend the budgeted amount on not-your-dream dress and feel sad about that.
I’d like to suggest adding the below to your list of choices:
Look for less expensive ways to get the dress you love, e.g., a sample sale, online, or buying a designer knockoff from overseas.
Look for less expensive ways to fund the rest of the wedding, so you can afford the “real” dress at the retail price.
Are either of these a possibility?
Post # 13
@centricity: That is great! Really helpful! Thanks so much!! 😉
Post # 14
@garnet2013: I ordered a Priscilla of Boston replica from overseas. Original tag was $3500, bought it for $410 (made to size, shipped for free). I’m picking it up Saturday and would be happy to share an honest opinion. I budgeted $350 for a dress, don’t know designers, etc….so this worked for me, although I know it does not work for all. But I tried on dresses, and nothing really sparked until I found this dress online (never tried it on! eeek!).
Anyways, sorry to be long winded, but I think you have to decide what’s most important to you. If the dress is one of the most important things for your day, then go with it. But if you aren’t stuck on a certain designer, then maybe a replica, discount dress, model dress could work for you. 🙂
Post # 15
This is what I’ve learned from the planning process, I started off thinking, “Other people might spend xyz on a cake or on catering or flowers but I’m not going to spend that much and I’m still going to get what I want.” And in some cases it’s been true, I’ve done a lot of research and found some vendors that I consider to be great deals, but all in all things cost what they cost. For instance renting tables and chairs? All of the rental companies that work in the same area have very similar pricing for the same items. Beverage service? companies that offer very similar bars and service have similar pricing. So before you blow the budget on a dress which is one of the items whose price can vary drastically, I would advise you get a good handle on how much you’re really going to have left over to spend on everything else.
Post # 16
@MadTownGirl: Hiya! Please let me know what you think of your dress!!! I went online today as I wanted to say to you all; I have found an amazing website!!! They can make my Dress in China and ship it all together for £240!!! That way I can have my dress and have some money left for other things!!! But I am a bit scared as you can’t try it on and you don’t know what they send you… So please; If anyone has any experience with buying you dress online (e.g. from china) please share your thoughts!!! 🙂