- 3 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Alright bees, I could use some outside perspectives. Sorry it’s long. For reference, my husband makes about double my salary, but we could survive on just my salary, but not invest/save the way we would like.
Four years ago I moved 2 hours from my hometown to be with my, now, husband. I wasn’t sure if I would like my position, but I absolutely love it. It’s been stressful lately because we’re short staffed, but overall it’s a great job with great vacation and somewhat flexible hours. But I miss my hometown and friends/family and go back to visit about once a month.
After grad school my husband got a job in our current city but he had awful hours and high stress and was pretty miserable. He got laid off about 10 months ago and was looking for jobs but being very picky as we didn’t want him back in an overtime/high-stress job. Plus it was more convenient to get a job after the wedding/honeymoon (Sept/Nov). But he’s been looking for better jobs and just not finding them/not getting hired because he doesn’t have experience.
Then he got an offer for a 9 month contract with a good job in my home town, so we’ve been living apart for the last 4 months. Which really really sucks. So when another contract came up with the same company in our current city, he took it and he moves back this weekend. Yeah! But it only lasts until August. And eventually we both want to end up back in my hometown. He could probably get a horrible hours kind of job more easily, but it’s proving harder to find one with good hours.
Last week I found out that there is a position available in my home town and I think I have a good shot at it. My field is very small so a position comes available about once a year and there’s really only the one company, so I can’t just apply to see if I get it because I don’t want to burn a bridge. However, now would be an awful time to leave my current job. We’re already short staffed and I’m now the senior person in my position and there’s nobody that can really take over all that I do. We’ve got somebody coming in soon but she won’t be licensed and able to work fully until August. I will feel really guilty for leaving my boss in the lurch – she’s a great boss! Plus, if I take this position I will want to stay there very long term. So it would really limit my husband’s possibilities to my hometown unless we want to live apart again.
To complicate all this, I’m prefer to start TTC sooner rather than later. But I am uncomfortable TTC before my husband has a long term job. And I wouldn’t want to get preggers right after starting a new job. Though part of me wants to just say screw it and go off BC. My husband has talked about being a stay at home
If anybody’s still with me after all that – kuddos to you! So should I apply for the job in my hometown? I’d likely rent an apartment while my husband finishes his job in my current city and looks for positions in my hometown. Or should I stick wth my current job and give my husband the most opportunities to find a job with reasonable hours and get my new coworker trained upwhile I stay in a position I really like?