Post # 1
Bees I need your help!
We got our cat when he was about 8 weeks old. My parents have always had cats, from when I was about 7 years old on. I’ve never had a cat like the one I have now though… He’s about 3 years old now and has always been more vicious than other cats I’ve had. But now it’s just getting so that I only like him or think he’s cute when he’s sleeping. He viciously attacks me (like literally won’t stop unless I manage to pick him up and put him in another room. These attacks are painful! He makes me bleed every time, and one bite got infected it was so deep. He doesn’t know how to play (even though we have toys for him and have played with him since he was a kitten). He seems to just have a mean streak..one second he’ll be sleeping on me, I’ll move or touch him and he tries to bite me! He especially loves attacking me when I’m walking from the kitchen towards my bedroom, he loves biting my legs.
He barely ever attacks my husband. I am the one that feeds him and cleans his litter box. He also pees on my clothes if I leave them on the floor, in my shoes, or in our hamper (he has gotten better with this though). I’ve talked to the vet and they didn’t really have an answer as to why he’s like this. I’m really at a loss here. I can deal with the peeing in places he shouldn’t but I can’t deal with the attacks every day.
We’ve tried a spray bottle filled with water but now he just attacks your hand and the bottle. I try putting him in another room but once he’s out again I’m fair game again. I’ve tried lightly hitting his nose but that just makes him more mad. I’ve tried holding him down by his scruff to show my dominance, but the second I let go he’s right back at me.
Any ideas??? I still love the cat but I definitely don’t like him a lot of the time!
He also attacks strangers and our friends so we have to put him in our bedroom when ppl come over 🙁
Post # 2
Check out Jackson Galaxy if you haven’t already. http://jacksongalaxy.com/category/aggression-problems/
It may be an anxiety or other issue but there has to be something that’s causing it. Does he have lots of spaces that he can just be? Like cat trees/scratching posts etc.
Post # 2
Sounds like you have a wild kitty here. My boy cat can get kinda crazy at time but not like you cat. My boy likes to beat up his mom and sister so when he gets that way i put him in a kitty time out and he tends to calm down. It sounds like your cat might need to see a cat behaviorist. They can help you calm a cat that is wilder. A lot of times we forget that are pets are naturally wild animals some cats have a harder time at being domesticated. Im sorry that you are going through this hang in there.
Post # 3
I would try noise aversion, change in a can is good, and shake it suddenly to just startle the cat when he is biting you or seems like he’s about to attack.
Also take away areas where he can hide out and stalk you. If he’s jumping out and biting your legs and feet, he’s basically treating you like prey. Don’t give him that opportunity.
I would also try a pheromone spray, there are some great ones that are specifically for calming. Is he an outdoor cat? Or do neighbors allow their cats to roam where he could smell or see them? Sometimes cats (especially males) can become territorial and attack people and pee in the house because they’re threatened by an outdoor cat they can’t get to.
Post # 4
a_day_at_the_fair: he’s not an outdoor cat, but there are a couple neighbourhood cats that he can see from our windows (one of them peed on our porch and you could smell it when we opened our front door despite spraying down the porch – hate owners who let their cats roam on other people’s property!).
I’ll try that spray you suggested.
Post # 5
_blackbird_: Definitely get some stuff to clean your porch, cause it’s pretty much a guarantee your cat can smell it. I would also get some cat repellent spray for your yard or outside to keep that from happening again. Basically your cat might be frustrated at these other cats getting into his territory, and since he can’t fight them to get them away, he’s taking his frustrations out on you.
Nature’s Miracle makes a great calming spray, and also make a good cleaner for getting rid of the urine smell. There’s also a company called “Feliway” who makes a wall plugin for calming, similar to a glade plugin air freshener.
Post # 6
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Is he neutered? … if he’s not, that could help.
Also, I dont know how much truth there is to it, but those cat whisperer type shows always seem to talk about this sort of behavior being territory insecurity… maybe try watching some? They almost always suggest the same things. Provide more secure territory through vertical space (cat trees or cat shelves). Add a few litterboxes in areas where he pees and clean you litterboxes 1-2 times a day…
Post # 7
I second all what MaplePoodle said. I can highly recommend My Cat From Hell – Jackson Galaxy really knows what he is talking about. You can find a lot of the episodes on Youtube by searching “my cat from hell”. I have learned a great deal from him.
Post # 8
_blackbird_: I used to volunteer at an animal shelter and have dealt with a lot of cats with behavioural issues. Firstly I agree with PPs that you should try using Feliway and also noise aversion when he attacks, I would have recommended scruffing him but it sounds like you’re doing that anyway. Secondly can I ask some questions?
1) Is there a specific reason you don’t let your cat go outside? Cats don’t generally like to be kept in and frustration might be part of the issue especially if he is seeing other cats around the house, to him they’re in his territory and theres nothing he can do about it
2 ) Related to 2, Has your cat been neutered?
3) I’ve met many cats have a gender preference so don’t find it unusual that your cat is fine with your husband but aggressive with you, does he attack male guests or just females?
4) Does he show any signs before he bites you? i.e. will he growl or move his tail or does he go straight from calm to attack?
Post # 9
_blackbird_: If he is not neutred get it done ASAP, but I bet your vet would have mentioned that.
So I guess it is another issue. So sorry you have to deal with this – a pet should not be a danger, what if you had a child/child visitor might end up nasty
Do you guys trim his nails/ should help to reduce the injuries….
Post # 10
Steph77: I’m guessing the OP lives in the U.S. and you live not-in-the-U.S.. In many U.S. areas it is very common to have cats that do not go outdoors for a variety of reasons.
Post # 11
There’s a woman called Pam Johnson-Bennett who has written a number of books about cat behavior, maybe you could get some of them from the library? Her techniques are pretty highly regarded.
Post # 12
I agree with watching my cat from hell! It’s amazing! My cat used to do the same and still does to a smaller extent. But it was because she still wasn’t trusting after living with a cat they she got to live with a dog for the first time ever. I found making lots of space up high made a huge difference she feels safe because she can get away from my dogs.she actually slept on my lap for the first time ever yesterday. She still sometimes attacks as I walk past but that’s usually because she wants attention not just because she’s a bitch.
You could try the noise aversion like said. we used deoderant cans and spray bottle now if we pick then up she stops she bad behavior. You could try feliway spray as well which is the pheromone spray that was mentioned. You could also try some calming pills. They are called tranquil, they come as treats and pills made by vetalogica. There’s lots of things you could try and that should make a difference I’d definitely free up some shelf tops that’s what made the largest difference for me. She now eats and sleeps on my lizard tank where she can be part of the family without dealing with the dogs.
Ps as mentioned some cats are just sexist, my cat definitely prefers men!
Post # 13
Totally agree with watching My Cat from Hell. Usually if you make little changes to the physical environment and actually spend a good 15 minutes wearing your cat out with playtime (feather toys on sticks are perfect!), their behavior does a 180. My cat would go after me, and was very bitey, but utilizing the tips from that show, I now have a very happy kitty who loves his kitty tree (definitely worth the investment).
It sounds like you’re disciplining the cat like most people would a dog. You can’t do that – cats are 100% different from dogs. Everything that would work with a dog (tapping, time outs, etc), just make a cat more frustrated. Water bottles never work with cats – they just make it worse. They associate the bad feeling of water with YOU, rather than the action they are squirted for.
Post # 14