(Closed) HELP! Catholic Ceremony Procession Anxiety…

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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8004 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I’m just a bit confused… I thought it was normal for the groom to wait at the bottom of the aisle for the bridal party? I suspect that this is a US thing, not a Catholic thing, if that helps?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my husband didn’t walk down the aisle for our wedding (but we were given the option). he and all the groomsmen came in from the side entrance near the front. i’ve seen weddings where the groom walks down the aisle first (with his parents i think?). if you did it that way, your groom would still be able to watch everyone else walk. maybe that’s an option for you?

 

try asking your priest or coordinator about alternatives. i met with my coordinator the week of my wedding and that’s when we finalized all the details about who was walking, in what order, how many people, etc.

 

but i think either way, you’re going to be hidden away for the entire procession. majority of the time, the bride doesn’t come out until just before it’s her turn to walk. this way, it’s a bigger “here she is!” moment instead, of your guests being like “oh there’s the bride waiting her turn.”

 

Post # 7
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My wedding is not until next May, but our procession will most likely go as follows:

1. FMIL escorted by one of the groomsmen…2. my mom escorted by my brother….3. my 2 junior bridesmaids….4. bridesmaids and groomsmen (I think they will meet the guys half way up)….5. matron of honor #2 (walking alone)….6. matron of honor #1 (walking alone)….7. flower girl and ring bearer….8. me and my dad.   Fiance and 2 best men will be waiting up at the altar.    Hope this helps a little!

Post # 8
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@PinkPony:  My fiancé and I will be walking down together.  This is actually what our church prefers but it is up to the couple what they want to do.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@PinkPony:  oh, i see. can he wait in the lobby or something? i always see grooms just kinda chilling right outside the church before the wedding. there’s no reason he needs to be hiding. everyone knows the bride is the star of the show, lol.

Post # 11
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8004 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My (admittedly English) procession will probably go thus:

– Either MOH, or MOH with one BM.

– Me.

– Remaining two BMs.

That’s it. Everyone else will already be in position. So you can pick whatever you want!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

There is nothing in the Catholic Church’s rubrics (i.e. the rules about how the liturgy is celebrated) that dictates a “right” or “wrong” way to do the wedding processional. That is usually up to the couple.

However, you also have to play by the local rules of whatever specific parish your wedding is held in. For example, many, many Catholic churches don’t allow Wagner’s “Bridal Chorus” (i.e. “Here Comes the Bride”) to be played at weddings. Even though it’s not a universal rule, the bishops and priests get to call the shots on their own turf.

It sounds like this church/priest might have an objection to things they feel place an inappropriate focus exclusively on the bride? You will have to find out how strict they are about it. Most parishes will probably let you do the processional the way you want, but if this priest has a pet peeve about that kind of thing … well, you’ll have to be very tactful in how you talk to him about it, and at the end of the day, if he’s the celebrant and it’s his parish, he does get to make the call.

At our wedding we really wanted to have Communion for the whole assembly under both species (wine and bread) because our Gospel reading was the “Wedding at Cana” passage, but the pastor doesn’t like to do it that way. We were able to receive both bread and wine, but the congregation was only given bread. Not what we wanted, but a Catholic wedding really isn’t “all about US”, it’s about tradition and ritual and membership in the larger faith community and a lot of other, bigger things too.

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