Post # 1
So my wedding is less than 3 months away, and my florist emailed me the other day to confirm details, and I am feeling so conflicted right now with my previous choices!
Originally I had chosen 25 red roses with pearl and rhinestone pins for my bridal bouquet, 14 ivory roses for my MOH, and 12 ivory rose bouquets for my 3 bridesmaids.
Now I am conflicted because I am unsure if the red roses will look out of place with the rest of the bridal party and wedding as a whole.
For reference, my dress is ivory (lace over satin – pictures are in another thread), the bridesmaids are wearing long black transformer dresses all in different styles, the groom is wearing a black suit with an ivory vest and tie, and the groomsmen are all in black suits with a black vest and tie. Our wedding colours (besides the black in attire) are ivory, gold and champagne – very clean and neutral looking. Our centerpieces are champagne rose balls with bling atop a very tall vase. There is nothing red in my wedding whatsoever but I liked that pop of colour originally.
We are also getting pearl wristlets for our mothers with a rose and baby’s breath and I’m unsure what colour to choose for that. Originally, I just really liked the idea of the contrast of colours between myself (and groom) and the bridal party but now I am second guessing it all because I have to choose the colour for our mothers and just can’t seem to pull the trigger on red. Carrying red roses is something I always dreamed of as a little girl however practicality is seeming to get the better of me and I’m uncertain.
Post # 3
I would go with red, I think it would complement your dress beautifully and it goes with your neutral colors. I would be concerned if your theme colors were purples, etc. I think that it will look stunning with your dress and let you stand out among the rest of the neutral colors and flowers.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I actually like the idea of the red, and since it’s something you might regret, do it!
Post # 5
Thank you both for your responses. I feel that exact way; like I might look back and regret it if I do go with the ivory, even though I’m sure it would be beautiful.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I think either of those choices would work well, so just go with what you actually want. Don’t be pressured into choosing ivory because it’s what a lot of other brides do. I was similarly pressured to use more ivory in my bouquet and I’m going with my gut and using all blush pink instead.
Post # 7
I think you’re lucky in that red goes well with your other colors — I would bring in a few other subtle touches of red to make things hang together, but I think you should go with your red rose bouquet, if you’ve always dreamed of that!
Here are some possibilities for bringing red into the wedding in subtle ways:
- red ribbon bouquet wraps on your bridesmaids’ flowers
- a red boutonniere for your husband (or even just a pop of red there as well — make the major flower ivory but include a smaller red accent)
- small touches of red in your decor — a ribbon here, a rose there, a box or basket or something
Even if you decide that you want your bouquet to be the only red thing, I would still go with it. You won’t clash, and it’s special to you.
Post # 8
@Christy42213: Thanks, you are so right. It is the pressure I would be caving to! And there’s so much of it with wedding planning sometimes! I’m glad to hear you are going with your gut – your choice sounds stunning.
@village_skeptic: I really appreciate your suggestions, thank you for those. My FI is going to have a red corsage to match my bouquet and the groomsmen ivory . Do you have a suggestion on what colour rose our mothers should wear on their pearl wristlet?
Post # 9
I think red would be nice. I’d probably prefer you to do the BM in red as well because I prefer the bouquets to be somewhat color related versus completely different colors. But that is just my preference. I do like color bouquets for brides. I think doing red ribbons on the BM bouquets would be a good idea.
Post # 10
@kes18: Thank you for your feedback
Post # 11
@Soon2BMrs.T: I’m so glad that my suggestions were helpful! Do you have any idea of what your mother and mother in law will be wearing? If it’s something that would coordinate well with red, I would say that it would be nice to give them a red rose (or give one red and one ivory) — but you really want to make sure that it wouldn’t clash! If they haven’t decided what to wear yet, I would go with the ivory rose and figure that it couldn’t possibly clash. 🙂
Post # 12
I voted Ivory: I have the experience a red bouquet might look strange in your wedding pictures since all other colors are nutral black and white.
Post # 13
I think the color scheme sounds beautiful! I would definitely go with something special for yourself since, after all you are the bride! Maybe you can choose a rose that compliments their gowns, or stick with the ivory.
Post # 14
@village_skeptic: No they have not chosen their dresses yet, so I think I will go with the ivory to be safe, even though my florist is suggesting red. Thanks for your thoughts!
@tisposeroperche: Thanks for your feedback. I actually found this photo on Pinterest today (see below) that is exactly what I want and think the red looks pretty great!
@MrsOrange: Thanks so much for your input.
Update: This picture is nearly identical to what I want for my wedding. I finally found one out there! My (4) girls are wearing black transformer dresses (and these dresses are different styles but black) and it’s got the different colour bouquets..
I am officially set on my choice!
Thanks Bees for all of your help
Post # 15
I think the red will add a nice pop of color and is still really classy,
Post # 16
If you’re concerned with the cream colour roses for the girls not matching, I would go with red for everyone! I was the MOH for my sister’s wedding in Sept 2011. The girls wore black dresses, and we had red roses, and my sister wore ivory, and had red roses with stephanotis in them. She still says to this day that her flowers, wedding band, and husband, were her favourite pieces that day!!!!
I editted this post because I saw that you went with your original plan, which based on the picture that will be similar to yours it will be gorgeous!!! Can’t wait to see your pictures!