HELP! CREEPY texts from a guy I used to date..wont leave me alone.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

You did the right thing by blocking his number and not responding to him, but I think you made some mistakes in the beginning. I always find it a bit strange when an ex comes back to “catch up.” I don’t think I would have responded to him for as long as you did, but I also don’t blame you for that either. I think as long as he is blocked and doesn’t try to contact you in another way you should be safe.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He sounds like a stage 5 clinger. I think you should be straight with him and say “I am not interested” seeings how he can’t take a hint. The stop responding. If he continues, file a report. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@rodeoblaze:  yeah I’ve gotten those kind of texts from a couple guys before. But you said he was creepy before and that’s one of the reasons you broke it off so this shouldn’t be a surprise. It doesn’t sound like you actually said no- you just didn’t reply. Yes he should have gotten the hint but guys like this sometimes need it spelled out. You blocked him so hopefully that’s the end if it. If he emails or calls just say “I am not interested and would appreciate it if you would stop contacting me” then goodbye, hang up and never respond again. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rodeoblaze:  he’s probably going through a breakup and looking for help in getting over it.  he’s probably lonely and going through a bad time in his life.  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yep that is some grade-A clinginess right there and would totally turn me off of a guy too. It’s disrespectful. One of the golden rules I try to live by is never say anything in text that youd want to take back later…or don’t ever say anything mean or clingy over text because people can always refer back to it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Yes you did the right thing lol. I was talking to this guy , years ago, he was cute but god he was annoying. He would send similar texts , then if I didn’t respond ASAP he would resend them. Why can’t people take a hint? Oh, well he already said farewell so I guess the issue solved itself lol.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@rodeoblaze:  I feel like in the least, his texts/emails were excessive. I would have blocked him too. If he keeps harrassing you (say from another number or email addres) some states have laws where you can press harrassment charges for that. Save them if you think it might come to that. And if it keeps going, don’t be afraid to tell him you aren’t interested. Hopefully he is done and will just get over it. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He’s totally trying to guilt trip you into responding. You did the right thing by blocking him! I also had an ex pull some crap like this and it turned out that he was on a bunch of drugs. He went from “I guess you don’t want to talk to me” to “you c*** b**** f****** s*** I was always nice to you and this is how you repay me? F*** YOU S***” in like two minutes flat!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@rodeoblaze:  yeah, he’s hoping he’ll make you feel bad so you’ll respond with something like “oh sorry, I wasn’t ignoring you on purpose I’ve just been busy” and then he’s in! Especially with the mention of how you must be happy with all the other guys you’re dating. Ha. Give me a break, right?! So transparent!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@rodeoblaze:  I would have blocked his number too – although blocking his number isn’t what I wanted to do, I blocked my ex from facebook, and anyone who knows him or has a chance of running into him knows not to say anything about me to him. He was an alcoholic and tried many times to get me back after I ended it and then after a year and a half of not replying to his FB messages, texts and calls (he then assumed I had blocked him but I had it in my phone as Pat DONT ANSWER…and the FB messages were before they started the “read” date and time), and not hearing from me – he takes it upon him to show up at my parent’s house one weekend on his bicycle from a town that is driving distance 45 minutes away. I told him I was just there mowing their lawn and doing some laundry and that I didn’t live there anymore….I really was doing everything I said but I hadn’t moved. He had been there the Friday of the weekend but I was out of town and didn’t notice the note he had left on their door til Sunday when I used the front door….and then came back Sunday. He was nuts. I opened the door without looking out a window because I actually thought it was my younger neighbor coming over to ask if my sister was home. After I opened the door, there was no going back because he had already seen me. First thing out of his mouth? “I’m not drunk I swear” uhhh ok pal.

Anyways – I would have blocked his number too and he doesn’t know how to take a hint. You are in such a happy place right now and he’s not going to mess that up by being a dink and wanting to get together and “catch up” and whatnot. Yay for ex’s 🙁

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@rodeoblaze:  Yes, you did the right thing. Just leave it where you left it.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@rodeoblaze:  You absolutely did the right thing.

He’s over invested, seems to have a real victim mentality and is trying really hard to manipulate you into contacting him despite all his protestations about “respecting your decision.” 

You are never going to be able to give this guy what he wants and he’s not ever going to take your no gracefully. The more you engage, and especially if you try to let him down nicely the more drama and nonsense you’ll have to deal with. Continue to ignore until he moves on. 

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