Post # 1
So I have a big dilemma! I bought The Dress from DB and I love it! Problem is it’s tradition in my country that the actual dress is never worn before the wedding or else it will not push through. I’ve already broken some of the traditions but my very superstitious mother is hell bent on keeping this one. I’m very anxious about this because the one I tried on at DB was a size 6 and we did a couple of pins in the back to make it fit me. They eyeballed me for size 0 but I’m not too worried because of the lace up style.
Aside from all that, I pretty much am very short (5’2″) and I regret not taking any more photos. I remember when I tried it on, I was just wearing 3 inch heels and it dragged on the floor. I bought 5 inch heels to compensate and don’t know if this is enough. So now I’m thinking of buying a crinoline or a hoopskirt but don’t really know if the dress needs it. I was gonna buy it to help the dress length and to help with the poofiness. What do you guys think?
To note, originally we were going to get married in Las Vegas so I typically thought I could buy any dress that I fell in love with. After some debate we decided to just get married in the City hall because we’re two broke recent grads with just our side jobs paying for these things. Don’t know now if it’s appropriate to wear something so poofy there.
Here is a picture: <br />
Also how terrible of an idea is it to keep my mother’s tradition?:P
This topic was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by ann3jacoba.
Post # 2
In trying on things, I figured out that I personally prefer crinoline over hoop skirts. Some hoop skirts really show through and make the dress oddly shaped. I think the crinoline gives more of natural appearance… well as natural as a full skirt can look lol. I don’t have my dress yet so sorry that’s not much help. Also, I think it’s sweet that you’re upholding one of your mom’s traditions. I’m sure it means a lot to her 🙂
Post # 3
I;m really confused – so you can’t do any dress fittings? If so, get a seamstress who is really good to take your measurements and alter the dress to fit you. If you do get a crinoline it will lift the skirt as well so account for that.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
You look darling – your dress is beautiful.
I think that if tradition is very important to you, then you should keep to it – however, I’d be nervous because tailoring a size 6 dress to an eye-balled size 0 girl seems risky, especially if there’s no way to take it in further on the day of your wedding! I think crinoline would be nice as it always seems to look really nice.
As a side note, City Hall is an amazing building! It’s so beautiful, take as many photos as you can! My SO and I thought of holding our reception there when we were looking at venues and then realized we wouldn’t have enough friends to fill it… Haha!
Post # 5
You definately need a crinoline or hoop skirt.
Post # 6
Definitely get a crinoline or hoop AND take it to a seamstress to get altered to your body. It will be money well spent.
So jealous, SF City Halls pics are doing to be amazing, it’s so pretty there!!!
Post # 7
Hi thanks everybody!
For those wondering how in my country they can uphold the tradition: The wedding dress is always custom made by a seamstress. She/he will make a petticoat and longline bra/corset and that is what you will fit and try on for alterations in the Philippines. The dress is just supposed to stay on the mannequin until the wedding day. But here in the US it’s so expensive to get a custom made dress from a seamstress, so I bought one from DB. Hence the dilemma I’m in now. I want to uphold this tradition more for my mother than for me. It means a lot to her. Haha.
So I plan on getting a crinoline or hoop. Most likely a crinoline! I dunno if this is a stupid question but should I get a crinoline that takes account of the train? Thank you!
We’re excited for the SF City Hall wedding too! Haha we’re just going for the weekday civil rights and then spending hours taking pictures around the city hall and some other places! I love the place! I haven’t been to SF in ages almost 20 years I think so I’m pretty excited 😀
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Do you have the dress in your possession? I would try it on. I’d just be too nervous that there could be a problem. And yes, I’d get a petticoat. I think it will be gorgeous at City Hall!!!
Post # 9
ann3jacoba: Buy a crinoline; worst case scenario you don’t use it(and you could return it for 30 days if you get it from DB). I don’t think they’re really affected by trains or vice versa.
I was at SF city hall on a weekday in June getting our marriage license, and there were brides in dresses that elaborate, just so you know (:
Post # 10
@ladymalthea: Omg thank you so much I was really worried about that!
Post # 11
I think because you have already gone against tradition by buying a DB dress then you need to carry through and get the dress properly fitted so it doesn’t swamp you like in the pic.
I understand from what you say about how your family tradition works that brides do end up with their dresses fitting and I think you will be upset to look back at your photos and see how your dress looks on you.
Once your dress is sized to you it will look stunning and I am sure will look wonderful at city hall or indeed any venue!
Sometimes one just has to do things for themselves not just for their family!
Post # 12
Thank you so much everyone! It’s been awhile but to update: I did get a 3ring hoop skirt that I could just take out the hoops if I didn’t like it. Keeping with the tradition I still don’t know what it looks like on me! I will definitely post pictures of the effect on me.
Koalaclark: I just couldn’t do it haha I couldn’t get myself to wear it. I mean, I want to but my mom won’t be there because she’s half way across the world and this is the one thing that makes me feel close to her while she can’t be with me. (One of my grandmothers died and they couldn’t leave. Only my sister is representing my side of the family). Also it’s a little too late now because the wedding is in…2 weeks! I thought about it for too long! Hahaha. I’m getting so excited!
On another note, do you guys think this dress will be okay going around Fisherman’s wharf? Too much? I know it’s kind of weird. We’re taking pictures in SF City hall then Palace of fine arts then Baker beach. The family wants to eat at Fisherman’s wharf for lunch and then we have dinner reservations. I just don’t know whether I should go and change first before I head back out again.