- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Let me start with, I am an only girl with 3 brothers. Also previously married and divorced. My dad has never walked me down the aisle. When I was married the first time I was not on good terms with my parents because I let my ex control my life. I was fortunate enough to get out of that, with my sanity. Two years ago my mom passed suddenly and it took it’s tole on everyone. Any whoo I got divorced moved south and started a new life. I met my then bf, now FI and we fell easily for each other. He is a kind wonderful caring man who I feel very blessed to have in my life. My dad strongly dislikes him and is usually rude to him. Everytime he is at our house he feels the need to bring up my ex, and on more than one occassion he has drudged up that I am divorced and make bad decisions… Now a few months ago we had twin girls, whom my dad loves but seldom comes to see. He comes into town 3 to 4 times a week and doesn’t stop to see my girls. I take them to see him a couple times a month which is a lot harder considering I do it x2. Now onto my next tid bit, he got married last sat to a nice enough woman with no gran kids. I have always been generous with baby lovin, but my dad has mentioned jokingly that he has something his new wife wanted gran babies. I’ve already told him that his wife is not my daughters grandmother, that she is in heaven, yeah he doesn’t listen. I also don’t feel that he honors my moms memory. We are getting married in an outdoor wedding this fall and I don’t know how I feel about him walking me down the aisle. I ask nothing of him because he says he’s given me too much in life, but don’t get me wrong if I needed food in the house he would take me grocery shopping or buy diapers if I needed them, but thats for the kids not me. I don’t ask for that either. Now my FI’s daddy and step-mom have ALWAYS been loving and sweet to me, they live an hour away and we make it a point to see each other several times a month. My FI is an only child and I love his dad so and I know he would give me away in a heartbeat i asked him too. What do I do? Since my mom’s passing my family doesn’t exist in the same sense anymore.
Please note there is a lot more crap involved it’s just too much to type. Also I apologize for the lack of consecutive thought, I’m exhausted.