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    Soexcitedtobeegettingmarried    May 22, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    Hi,

    So I went wedding dress shopping today for the first time. I went to three stores.

    At all three I only liked lace dresses. By the 2nd store, I realized I didn't want an all lace dress, but rather a dress that has a combo of silk and lace, when I tried on this dress http://www.palomablanca.com/  Style number 3953. This dress is around $2100.  

    At the last store I found this dress http://www.jlmcouture.com/Jim-Hjelm/Bridal/Additional/Style-8709 The kicker* is that the Jim Hjelm dress I found at the last store was a sample dress on sale for $800!!! (My goal was to spend a max of $2000 including alterations). Sooo I feel pressured to make a decision ASAP. Luckily I had one of the last appointments of the day, so I doubt someone snagged it in the last 45 minutes the store was open. They open at 11a.m. tomorrow, and I want to decide tonight so I can call them if I decide I want it. 

    As for alterations......On both dresses I would plan to add a very small amount of lace to the very top of the dress to soften the neckline.

    On the Paloma dress, I would take off the the little bow around the waist line.

    If I get the Jim Hjelm dress I would add buttons down the back (you know those weddingish looking buttons you see on vintage dresses), and the Paloma dress already has buttons.

    Both dresses would require significant shortening, which would not be a problem on the Paloma dress because they could cut the dress and take it up in the waist area. FYI: The Jim Hjelm dress is a size 12, and I am a 6 (street size 0 or 2).The problem is that the Jim Hjelm dress cannot be taken up that way, and would need to have the bottom cut. They said still could still apply the lace to the bottom and create the same flutted look, but I'm scared they wont be able to create the same fluted look, and that it actually will change the bottom detailing a little bit. 

    I'd love any comments/feedback you have!

    Update: On the Paloma website, I just also found style 3854, which I like a lot too.
     

     

     

     
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    DCech    May 1, 2011   Milpitas

    i love the 2nd dress, the price is soo good and it is gorgeous, and simple but classy.

     
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    huckleberry783    June 18, 2011  

    omg, I LOVE the Jim Hjelm dress (insert dress envy here)!!!!!!!!!! Love, love, love.

    However, that does sound like a lot of alterations. Can you get the dress elsewhere in your size? Even if it costs more on the ticket, it sounds like you'd make up for it in alterations costs.

     

    EDIT: i don't know a lot about designer dresses (I didn't let myself look, because although I know there are bargains like the one you found, I would be the one to fall in love with the dress I couldn't afford), but will JH let you order in petites or some sort of hollow hem thing?  Perhaps that way, even if you have to shorten a bit more and move the lace appliques, the dress will maintain more of its shape. 

     

    Edit 2: the 3854 is gorgeous! Perhaps you should just keep looking/try that one on!

     
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    MissTatas    August 6, 2011   Minneapolis, MN

    Personally, I love the Paloma but I think you should go with whichever one makes you feel best. However, I would NOT rush to buy a gown that needs so many alterations.

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    I love the second dress, but I would definitely be worried about all those alterations. Personally, I would keep looking.

     
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    Soexcitedtobeegettingmarried    May 22, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    Thanks for comments!  FYI with Paloma 3854, I would not wear the sash around waist.

     
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    MacFaniam24    July 24, 2010  

    I love both your dresses! We have the same taste:) My dress is the Jim Hjelm 8863 with the bow in the back though and I got buttons added down the back as well! I love both dresses, I don't think you should get rid of the bow on the first one, or your could just have the ribbon without the bow. Don't feel like you have to but a dress right away though, don't feel pressured, I got mine like 6 months before. You don't want to rush into anything. Good luck!

     
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    Soexcitedtobeegettingmarried    May 22, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    Thanks for the feedback! Since I still like both Paloma gowns and the original Jim Hjelm gown, as well as several other Jim Hjelm gowns, I'm gonna hold off and continue to browse and think about it. 

     
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    shaunna    October 9, 2011   UK

    They look very similar, but I think the Jim Hjelm is more eye-catching. I'd go with that one.

     
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    alterationsinc    December 22, 2006   Phoenix

    Both gowns are just stunning.  I can see how it would be hard to chose. 

     

    As for alterations, a talented seamstress can perform the alterations and keep the integrity of your gown.  Shop around, ask friends for references, look online and read reviews.  Above all chose someone with extensive bridal experience and someone you feel comfortable with.

     

    Congratulations and make this a fun and exciting experience.

     

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    zippylef    October 30, 2010   Norfolk, UK

    I'm voting for the Jim Hjelm one too. The Paloma is kind of... i don't know. It just doesn't do much for me.

     
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    shannon1126    August 21, 2010   Washington, Wedding in Vegas

    I vote the Jim Hjelm, I really like the detail of that dress and I feel the same as @zippylef about the Paloma dress, its too ordinary

     
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    Soexcitedtobeegettingmarried    May 22, 2011   Los Angeles, CA

    Okay so I think I am leaning towards the Jim Hjelm (although I am thinking about actually trying to find it in my size), but I was wondering, do any of you know of any similar dresses by other designers (similar to either the Jim or the Paloma dresses)? I am curious to see if there are any possible contenders. I just ran a search on The Knot's website and didn't come up with anything. Please let me know. Pictures would be awesome! Thanks!

     

    Also, can you let me know your thoughts on altering the Jim Hjelm from a bridal gown size 12 to fit me (I'm a street size 0 or 2)? Thanks!

     
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    yuanyuan    October 10, 2008   shanghai

    lovely dress

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I love the JH dress!

     

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