Help! Destination wedding with no reception dinner. Is it ok?

posted 3 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Only you know your friends and family – what they want, what they will have to pay to get there, what they can afford..

But essentially – you really should provide something. Could you do a morning wedding, pay for a lunch instead of dinner and then all go out partying later?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honesty, I think it sounds kind of cheap to ask your friends and family to travel to Vegas for your wedding, and not even have a meal after the ceremony.  It doesn’t need to be anything huge, but it does need to be something. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kthy956:  If the timing of the ceremony means that a normal reception would be over a mealtime, then you really should provide the meal.

If you can`t afford dinner, do a brunch wedding.

If you skip a meal entirely and then expect peope to go drinking, expect a lot of drunks.

Another option is to schedule your ceremony for 8 pm or later so guests would eat dinner before the wedding.  If I were your guest, I would  think you were cheaping out.

If you can`t afford any sort of meal, I suggest you consider eloping on your own.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

If I went all the way out to Vegas for a wedding, I’d be pretty irritated not even to get fed… But that’s just me!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am a person who is really easy going in terms of wedding. I can always have a good time and don’t expect anyone to do more then they can solely to show me a good time. That being said, if I travelled for a wedding and wasn’t even provided a meal, I’d be really upset. If you can’t afford it, invite less people?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@kthy956:  I really don’t think it’s OK.  If you can’t do dinner, you need to do an afternoon wedding.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m with PPs…feed your guests something.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m fine with cake and punch for a hometown wedding, but if people are going to vegas you should feed them.  I am pretty easygoing and I would be upset about this invite.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

All the way to Vegas? Please feed your guests. Even a Vegas buffet. If you were my sister I would tell you that it’s very rude to consider not feeding your guests.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

Your guests are spending a lot of money to attend your DW. I truly think.it is wrong to not provide a meal. I would be pretty ticked if I spent that kind of money and there was no meal.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Your guests are spending a lot of money to attend your DW. I truly think.it is wrong to not provide a meal. I would be pretty ticked if I spent that kind of money and there was no meal.

Post # 15
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I am doing destination to Vegas and have researched a lot! There are tons of affordable things including brunches which are cheaper and a million buffets. I think I have decided on seated private room even though we may only have 15 guests but still want to provide a gathering. I really think you can do it on the cheap- tons of options and people can always meet you later at club bar to continue celebrating 

Post # 16
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Helper bee

@kthy956:  We are doing the same thing but we only have about 20.  We are going out to eat, but its going to be a seperate check for each family thing.  BUT, we are also renting a house for the week and we are paying for it, in addition to paying for all the clothing for the wedding party.  

If I had my way it would only be me and FI, my best friend and his brother, but everyone wants to make a vacation and bring kids, SO etc. so there will be a few concessions for everyone!

I would just check and see what everyone is ok with. 

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