(Closed) Help, difficult mother makes for good time impossible

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I Elope?
    Go through with weddng as planned and get hurt and torn down and stressed by mother : (2 votes)
    6 %
    Elope and risk hurt feelings of those who wanted the wedding for their own reasons : (25 votes)
    76 %
    Try to have the wedding without her there (which would be difficult if not impossible) : (6 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted for eloping. You and your FI should not be stressed and losing sleep over your wedding. Your mom backed out on giving you money and then insulted you. I would elope and since she already isn’t nice to you just tell her later and when she complains say it was her fault because she didn’t give you the money. Since you have only sent save the dates and people are just starting to book rooms they can get them refunded since there is still time. I would contact everyone and tell them that you couldn’t wait to get married and you eloped and hope to have a reception at a later date. That way they can cancel.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Def elope!  This day is for you both, not your family or friends.  It’s great to have them there to celebrate that with you, but not if they are only going to drive you crazy.  I don’t think it’s too late to call off the wedding and let everyone know you’re eloping instead.  It probably will piss your mother and maybe your sister’s off, but either way, they are going to cause you some grief.  Good luck with which ever decision you choose.  We’re all here for YOU.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’m sorry you’re dealing with all of this!  How far along are you in all your planning?  I say elope if you can, but get the word out soon so people can cancel whatever reservations they had, or go ahead with the wedding but cut your family out of the planning/financial aspects as much as possible.  Don’t feel bad about not inviting anyone who you think might cause a scene. I’m sorry I don’t have any better advice.  Stick close with your FI and the two of you will get through this.

    Post # 7
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    This is so sad. I’m sorry you are dealing with this! I would vote elope as well. You and your FH want and NEED to have the wedding you guys want. Maybe later you and everyone in the family can get together for a reception. Elope, go get married, and enjoy your honeymoon without the drama and stress!

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