Post # 1
So my boss and I use to get along, but this past year he has been pretty mean to me and said pretty aweful things about me…over stupid stuff. Seriously very stupid stuff…he often talks about weddings in a negative light around me, which I think is rude considering I am about to get married. I really don’t care for the guy anymore.
I DO NOT want to invite him to my wedding. But people are telling me I have to.
Do I have to invite him? Yes or No?
Post # 3
ummmm no! It is not necessary to invite your boss. No one should feel like they have too….
Post # 4
Absolutely not! I’m not inviting any of my bosses. I have like 5. It isn’t that I don’t get along with them or anything, but they aren’t my friends either and our guest list is big enough already. Don’t feel obligated to do anything.
Post # 7
Absolutely do not invite him! You don’t have to, and it’s probably better for you in the end that you don’t.
Post # 8
Nope. Didn’t invite mine or half of my coworkers either and I don’t regret it!
Post # 9
And that has nothing to do with the quality of your relationship–he’s your BOSS. Unless the boss and “underling” are very close personal friends, then most bosses I know would never expect to be invited to their subordinates’ weddings AND while they would appreciate the gesture, most would never have the nerve to actually show up.
Who wants to see their boss (or their subordinates) doing the funky chicken after a few glasses of champagne?
Post # 12
No, I am not inviting my boss…or anyone I work with, for that matter.
Post # 13
No way! I’m not inviting mine. Another girl in the office did, but I’m having a smallish wedding and don’t want him there
Post # 14
@kimsryman: Are you inviting any other co workers? I want to say no you do not have to invite him, but if you worked in a small office and invited everyone else but him then that might be a problem.
Post # 15
Yes, that is the problem for me. I am inviting a few people in the office. I spoke with a girl right now in the office and she said that since I invited a few people I should invite him as well, especially since he would get really butthurt if I didn’t.
My plan is: My wedding is Labor Day weekend and I kind of have to since I am inviting a few other people in my office (and he would give me a huge guilt trip if he doesn’t get invited). I am hoping he takes a vacation that weekend and he won’t be able to make it to my wedding. I will wait last minute to give out the invite to him.
What about that plan? You think that would work? Or am I just being silly about the whole situation.
Post # 16
@kimsryman: I think you need to decide whether you’re inviting him or not, and then if you are inviting him, you need to treat him like any other guest (i.e. not give him the invitation last minute).
Sounds like your boss sucks….but honestly it might make your life easier in the long run if you just invited him, esp if you are inviting other co workers. I know others might disagree with me, but that’s my opinion….
Chances are, there are going to be PLENTY of people at your wedding who love you and thus you will spend most of your time with them, and also your new hubby!!