Help! Dress budget advice

posted 2 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Splurge or save?
    Get the one I really want : (28 votes)
    67 %
    Save that money or something else : (14 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 2
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    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Me personally, i would get the less expensive dress. Money is money, and money is important! It’s a dress you are wearing once, sure its beautiful but heck a honeymoon, or even a wedding video is just as beautiful!

     

    Whats the price difference between the two?

    Post # 3
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    1062 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    What’s your dress budget? And what was the dress brand/style that you liked? There are many knowledgeable bees on here, so I’m sure someone can volunteer a style similar to the one you loved. 

    I think you should get a dress that is “you.” However, I don’t believe in getting an expensive dress if it’s something you will feel guilty over. I stayed within my dress budget, however, I don’t know if it was considered splurging or not to you, since everyone has their own opinion of what a splurge is. Anything over $50 for an outfit I can only wear one time is a splurge in my book. 

    Anyways, I would rather put more money towards the honeymoon than a dress. 

     

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  dojx.
    Post # 6
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    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Trilogy Golf Course at Glen Ivy

    l.bee:  This is beautiful! If it was me, I would just get the dress I wanted if i’m still thinking about it after weeks. The way I see it, I only plan on getting marry once so why not spoil yourself. You can always make cuts somewhere else. Maybe instead of chiavari chairs just have regular chairs. 

    Post # 7
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    237 posts
    Helper bee

    I went ahead and bought the dress I wanted over a decent free dress.  It was more than I wanted  to spend and yet cheaper than retail since I bought the dress brand new from someone who canceled her wedding.  It still had tags on it.  While I am excited to have the dress… I am not going to lie but I still have lingering thoughts about how that money could have been spent on something else more important or left in the bank to watch my balance grow since it is an item I am only wearing for a few hours.   Not to mention, I may incure alternation charges if needed which adds to the overall dress cost.

     

     

     

    Post # 8
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    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    BHLDN has some gorgeous gowns that are under 2k. This one is similar in style http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/tamsin-gown-ivory/productoptionids/f314d873-ef50-4ba8-88ab-7e634f1f2445 

    This one is similar with the illusion lace and color http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/vivienne-gown/productoptionids/d9b2029e-944d-4588-a578-8fa2b9b2ba8d 

    I’ve been considering getting a BHLDN gown for a second dress to wear for the reception. I think they are gorgeous!

    That being said, if you fell in love with a gown, then it will be hard for any other dress to live up to it. Personally, I would say go with the one you love otherwise you might have regret. 

    Post # 9
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    2636 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    It really depends on your finances. For me, I had a budget for my dress and I went wayyy over when I realized that for the level of fabric quality etc I was looking for I HAD to spend more… I’m so glad I did!

    Post # 10
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    l.bee that is BEAUTIFUL!!! Watters makes some great stuff! 

    To avoid the temptation, I went in to the salon and told them my budget and they only showed me dresses that were max. $500 over.  I actually ended up coming in about $100 under budget!  I agree with finding a dress that is you, also.  But you need to feel comfortable with the price tag.  

    My tummy did back flips for a pair of shoes I wanted, but I knew they’d never be seen as they’d be under my dress.  They were quite expensive and as much as I tried to rationalize it (I’ll dye them after, I’ll totally wear them again..etc.), I just couldn’t do it.  

    I agree with dojx, I keep reminding myself it’s one day, so keep it reasonable. 🙂 (that’s just me though)

    Have you checked out BHLDN before?  What about these?:

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/tamsin-gown-ivory/productoptionids/f314d873-ef50-4ba8-88ab-7e634f1f2445 

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/francine-gown-champagne/productoptionids/b8df1319-232a-4c6f-a05d-cdf74da57ed1 

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/penelope-gown/productoptionids/5e880b9d-09fe-4049-a36a-b7d7aaca5f10 

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/elsa-tulle-skirt/productoptionids/fbcaeb8b-b90b-4e9a-9313-32da085940dd 

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/onyx-gown-oyster/productoptionids/f314d873-ef50-4ba8-88ab-7e634f1f2445 

    http://www.bhldn.com/shop-the-bride-wedding-dresses/thea-gown/productoptionids/fbcaeb8b-b90b-4e9a-9313-32da085940dd 

     

     

    Post # 11
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    986 posts
    Busy bee

    I honestly don’t think spending over your budget is worth it for a dress you’ll wear once. like others said, you could probably find something that’s “you” for less, instead of compromising and wearing something you don’t love. The BHLDN ideas are great!

    Post # 12
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    35 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Tuscan farmhouse and vineyard

    If you love the Watters dress maybe you could wait a little and look for an ‘off the rack’, sample or preloved loved gown. Same dress, less money. Some gowns likely look as good as new. I bought my Lazaro ‘preloved’ as I wasn’t willing to pay thousands. Best decision I made. Depends if you need to buy a dress soon or can bide your time for the one you want.

    Post # 13
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    795 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I spent more on my dress and I’m glad I did. 

    Post # 14
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    1711 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think it would be smarter to buy the dress you actually want.

    Yes, you’ll save money by buying a less expensive dress, but is that money you save worth the regret of wearing a dress you don’t really like on your wedding day? I don’t think it is. If a few hundred dollars will ensure your satisfaction, spending the money is a good idea. 

    Post # 15
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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If you are savvy about it, you can definitely have your cake and eat it too. You could consider buying a sample or pre-loved dress, buying the dress new and offering it for pre-sale (offer it for sale after the wedding before you’ve even worn it), or planning to sell it after the wedding.

    I bought a VW sample dress and it rocks my world. For the record, I had previously purchased a cheaper, budget-friendly dress but I just couldn’t get excited about it. It was pretty, but the fabric felt so hot and the fit was average. Generally with wedding dresses, you get what you pay for!

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