(Closed) Help! Dresses don’t look right on me!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Only the firsts link works for me, but from what I can tell, it looks lovely.

Post # 4
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I think they look great on you!  My favorite are the first two — I’m just not a big fan of the drop-waist sash on the third style.  Isn’t ruching great?  It’s so flattering on everyone!

Post # 5
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can see why you think those dresses weren’t flattering on you. You have wide hips and a teeny tiny waist (jealous!!!) so if I were you I would choose a gown with a fitted waist and then a big poufy bottom. What about something like this tulle gown? This model looks like she has a similar shape to yours. (The gown is from here: http://store.elegantbridaldiscount.com/dabrtuwedrst.html )

Post # 6
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

have you tried an A-line with a corset back? That could help. You’re right, its not toning, it just hips (like me!) My hips always stick out so dresses have to fit properly. They make slim A lines that aren’t as foofy. Mermaids may look nice to balance it out. I think the 1st one looks pretty 🙂

Post # 7
1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree with snmcdowell and JoesWifey.  Your "problem" seems to be that you have a tiny waist.  I think having a defined waistline (empire or natural) will probably work.  And I don’t think you need anything too poofy, but not fitted either.  Just something that pulls away after the widest part of your hip (or even from higher) like an A-line would. 

Since you don’t want poofy, what about something like:





I don’t mean these dresses necessarily, just the silhouette.  The main thing is that they aren’t fitted down to the hip, just to the waist.  That will also draw extra emphasis to your waist and give you a lovely shape.

Post # 9
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Your shape seems to be pretty similar to my own.  I had my first fitting yesterday and was reminded of how much I love my dress and why I chose it.  I ended up purchasing the Maggie Sottero "Jovi."  I would never have dreamed I would pick this dress, but once it was on I loved it!  It has a corset back, so you can adjust it to fit and accentuate a smaller waist.  It is a slimfit A-line, and on me it hugged my curves to my hips and then floated away just the right amount.  I tried a dress that had a similar shape at David’s Bridal, but I wanted a sweetheart neckline and it seems like maybe the back wasn’t a corset back, but I can’t remember and don’t know the style of the one I tried on.  The Maggie had similar features, but had everything I was looking for and fit even better.  I don’t know what your style is, but you might try something with this shape…It worked for me!

Post # 10
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You have a gorgeous figure. You just have hips (as do I!) and a defined waist, which means you (and I) should avoid the dresses made for the straight-up-and-down girls. I love A-lines, especially those with corset backs. I think your second dress with a true A-line (rather than a half A-line) silhouette would be great. Also, Maggie Sottero and Sophia Tolli are two designers you might want to check out; if you want to lower your price point a bit, check out Alfred Angelo.

I complain about my shape to my fiance occasionally; life would be easier if I had skinny hips in terms of clothing fit and the like. He always shoots back that *he* likes the fact that I have hips and a waist. I bet your fiance loves your shape, too. I kept in mind that the guy who would be waiting for me at the end of the aisle would like the basic shape underneath my dress when I was dress shopping, and it helped enormously – if there was a dress that didn’t work for my body type, I could tell myself with 100% confidence that my fiance wouldn’t like it either! There are a lot of dresses out there that really look smashing on women with defined waists; I predict that you will be able to find one that will delight your fiance and satisfy you. Here are a few more suggestions:








Post # 11
5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can see why you didn’t like the last one, it’s a pretty dress, but I think for you the detail doesn’t hit you at the right spot around your waist.  I can’t see what’s going on in the first pic well, but I really like the back of the dress.  And the second dress, I actually really like the ruching and think the dress shows of your curves really nicely.  You look like you are a pear shape, so have you checked out articles on how to dress your body type?  Here’s a few I found:



I know there was a website where you could search for dresses based on your shape, but my mind is blanking right now and I can’t seem to find it.  I just saw the links posted above, I think fizicsGirl is headed in the right direction for you and I really like the dresses she found!

Post # 12
5399 posts
Bee Keeper
Post # 13
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the second one looks the best. The first one makes you look really pear-shaped, even if you aren’t. It’s more of an illusion b/c you have a slimmer waist. Honestly, my hips are about 3" wider than my waist and even that type of dress makes ME look really pear shaped.

What about a slim A-line? It’s not poofy, but it’s more of a skimming fit. And skip the crinoline all the models are wearing. I think those are always really flattering on women. Here are some silouettes I really like. I think the 3rd and 4th are my favorite.






 Just try a BUNCH of different shapes of dresses, then narrow it down to the specific kind of look you want. I wanted a mermaid soooo bad but it just did not look good on me. The slim A-line (for me) with a dropped waist (no sash though, like your 3rd one) was "almost" there but wasn’t so snug. it was still sexy like the mermaid but way more flattering. 


Post # 15
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Been there, done that. I was SO frustrated after my first few shopping trips went down the crapper. Nothing looked good and i figured i was destined to wear something expensive that didn’t look that awesome.

The saleslady suggested I try on the dress I ended up buying. It looked so weird on the rack! So, consider asking an experienced woman in the dress shop what silouette she thinks would look best on you. Maybe she’ll grab something you wouldn’t necessarily think twice about

Post # 16
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Mollie2383 – I love the second and third dresses on you. I actually tried on that third dress, and liked it a lot on myself (but it made my hips look a lil wider than I care for).

You look to be shaped like me – ‘cept you’re skinnier. I’m not in any way trying to pick you apart (like I said, you look like me), but if you’re not happy with your look, I’d suggest doing some arm toning if you need more confidence – that’s what I’m doing and it’s given me lots more confidence in my "look". Since you don’t look to be packing any extra pounds on your arms, you will probably see pretty fast results if you lift some dumbells a few days a week. 😉

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