HELP! Engaged for 3 weeks..already tempted to elope

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do in this situation?
    Suck it up and pay the fees : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Try to negotiate lower fees : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Look elsewhere : (12 votes)
    48 %
    Elope : (10 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 5
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    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I voted that you should elope, but that’s what I always vote in these polls, so I’m biased. I think spending large amounts of money and stressing out over a wedding is so unnecessary. I do understand that there is nothing inherently wrong with a large or expensive wedding, but it has no appeal to me.

    Post # 6
    Member
    8592 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t think there’s much you can do, really.  Those are their policies.  I think they’re a little crazy but that’s how it is I guess.  You can look for alternative venues that are not a hotel I suppose.

    How many guests are you having?  That makes a big difference to me.  Usually people save with destination weddings because the guest list is much smaller (compared to a large wedding at home).  If you’re only having 20 people than their cake costs $175 which would be better than paying the $200 fee.  Similarly, paying dinner for 30 at an expensive resort (let’s say $75 pp) might be pricy but with only 30 people it’s cheaper than paying for 200 people (at $40 pp) to eat.

    Post # 8
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    262 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Powel Crosley Estate, Sarasota, FL

    @springweddingbee:  It’s still early and based on your date, you still have plenty of time. I would shop around for competitive venues in the area! Think outside the box and try multiple optoins 🙂 I used an excel spreadsheet to keep track, and it helped a lot!

    Post # 9
    Member
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    I voted look elsewhere. If you still feel the same after researching different locations and countries – elope!

    Post # 11
    Member
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @springweddingbee:  Nope, we’re going to have a small civil ceremony in our town with dinner for 20 afterwards at a local, casual restaurant. The only thing I really care about is going out of town for a few days on a honeymoon.

     

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