posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh totally inappropriate.  I’m sure it stems from 1. her fears of losing you, as she is a single mom so you are her only immediate family and 2. possibly financial concerns due to the new rent payment (maybe she should sell or lease out her house…?) along with a $2,500 rehearsal dinner (side note: how the heck does it cost that much??).  BUT that is no excuse for her behavior.  I’d just try to distance yourself from her as much as possible until the wedding; it just doesn’t seem worth the drama.

Post # 4
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’m sorry you feel let down by your mother but I think you have to let it go. As an adult she can do whatever the hell she likes. If she wants to behave like a 20 year old why shouldn’t she? If she wants to move to San Fran why shouldn’t she? She is also under no obligation to pay for anything fro your wedding and it kind of sounds like you forced/manipulated her into paying for the rehearsal.

You also need to stop looking at things negatively. When someones offers their opinion on something don’t take it as criticism. Take it as what it is , an opinion. Everyone has them and they differ from person to person, subject to subject.

Did you call the none RSVP’ers? Because that is what you should be doing if they haven’t responded. They may not have received their invite or you may not have received the RSVP that they sent. The only clear way is to call them and ask.

Also no-one is obligated to give you a gift, especially if they are not coming to the wedding. Gifts are given freely and should never be expected.

As for your cousin. Well again as an adult he can do what he likes with his life. if that means he prioritises a football game trip over your wedding. Well that is his choice. A wedding invite is just that an invitation. It is not a supeona. If you do not want him to stay at your place then just say it.

Also no one owes you an apology for not being able to come to your wedding. Neither do they owe you an explanation as to why they are not coming. All they need to let you know is a yes they are coming or a no they are not.

I personally think your expectations of other people are too high and your reactions are a bit over the top.

Let it go, enjoy your wedding and stop taking things so personally. Your highest priority right now is getting married, everyone else has different numbe 1 priorities in their lives.

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