- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I come from 2 huge families and had to pick and choose who I invited to the wedding. I took a list of over 250, and had to break it down to 140. So needless to say some were left out. My father has told his family he is giving me a large portion of money for the wedding, which is a lie, FI and I are footing the entire bill ourselves.
So, because I have left out people my father’s side has decided to boycott my wedding (according to my father) and A) either not show up or B) say they are coming and not show up. Needless to say I am worried to the max about B) happening.
At this point in the game I don’t know what to do. I cannot have 50-60 people telling me no 3 weeks before the wedding, especially considering I have a substantial amount of people I kept off the initial guest list. I would rather know ahead if these people who are boycotting my wedding are not going, so I can invite others who would like to attend.
In our case whether we have 100 or 140 people we need to pay the same amount, we have a room min we must meet.
At this point I don’t want any of them even there. They have been rude and ignorant the entire process. They have complained every step of the way. It being 45 minutes away, that I should get a charter bus for them to be taken, that the rooms to stay are too expensive. Basically that the wedding is a complete inconvenience for them to attend and I should beg them to come.
My shower is coming up and I just found out that 27/57 are not coming, that is almost a 50% decline rate, that is huge. I anticipated 45/57 to show. So it sends serious concerns about the wedding.
I refuse to sit back and allow people to run and ruin my life.
So I am planning on having others spread the word that my RSVP date was printed wrong that it is actually Oct 2, not Oct 20 (wedding is Nov 9, invitatinos were sent Aug 9) and that I need the head count Oct 9.
What would you ladies do?
Wait until after your RSVP deadline or spread the word the date is wrong?
Also how would you go about telling them? At the shower (Sept 28)? Call the aunt/uncle’s and they can each inform their kids?