Post # 1
So Fiance has brought this up a couple times, but the convo got serious yesterday.. He started talking about getting that stuff figured out and of course I said HELL NO. I do nooooooot want BEER PONG at our WEDDING. No. no. NO! Ahhh! I am absolutely appalled by the idea, I have no desire to try to make our wedding reception like a college party. He also wants to have karaoke. He likes to sing, he likes going to karaoke bars. Again, I do not feel the need to make our wedding reception more like his favorite bar. I do find that idea slightly less horrendous than setting a beer pong table up in our beautiful venue. My other issue is that I don’t want people getting falling-down drunk at our wedding. I don’t want people to have an excuse to chug beer after beer. I’m sure there will be some that will try to get wasted, but I feel that the beer pong will promote that and we’ll have a bunch of his college buddies being a little too crazy. I also told Fiance that I don’t want my groom playing beer pong all night while I’m left sitting at a table, he said he’s not going to play, it’s just something he wants to do for the guests. The thing is, Fiance says I keep shooting his ideas down. He says he hasn’t been able to contribute any ideas for the reception and that beer pong is something he really really wants so that the guest will have more activities to do so they can have more fun. He doesn’t want people to think it was lame or not have a good time. What do I do? Am I being too uptight? Like I said, I am absolutely appalled by the idea.. this is our wedding, in this beautiful ballroom with all the beautiful centerpieces and décor that I have worked so hard to put together. And he has his heart set on putting a beer pong table in there.
And FYI, this is NOT an informal wedding.
Post # 3
Could you maybe suggest a casual day-after the wedding party where he could play beer pong to his heart’s content?
Post # 4
No. No no no no no. NO.
Karaoke I could do. Beer pong? HELL NO.
Your Fiance is off his rocker.
Post # 5
In My Humble Opinion, there’s a time and a place for beer pong… And it’s not at a formal wedding. =/
Post # 6
@MissBoPeep: In college when you’re 18?
Post # 7
@trueblue14: I was thinking the same thing. Or maybe an afterparty? Then he could join in the fun?
Post # 8
@trueblue14: This actually sounds like a great compromise!
I applaud you for not smacking him upside the head so far, OP. :p He says he’s worried about people getting bored? I don’t know, I’ve been to dozen and dozens of weddings and I’ve never expected them to have all kinds of activities planned for me. Food, drinks, and dancing is about the norm. Is there anything else you can let him have his way on? Is he just harping on this because he thinks you’re shooting down his ideas (rightly so on this one, I am with you 100%!)?
Post # 9
Hell no! Absolutely not. No way. Never.
Post # 10
omigod yesss beer pong. better than karaoke imo. you can throw beer pong in a back corner; karaoke’s going to cut into the dancing. and if people aren’t dancing they’re drinking.
maybe put someone on interference detail so noone plays too many games in a row, but it’s generally just that one guy (i guess two if they keep the same partners) that keeps winning that gets wasted and then sits in a chair all night. the majority of people will cycle in for a round and then bounce back out. i went to a formal(ish) event once where there were three beer pong tables along the back wall; half the people didn’t even know they were there (big venue with columns, dimmed lighting, dance floor at the very front)
note: i might be biased. in college i made my own standard-sized beer pong flattop that i kept in my apartment for predrinks.
Post # 11
Hugs! We are not having a formal wedding and I wouldn’t want beer pong there either. I like the suggestions about the afterparty. Could you compromise with him by including some other “cool” guy thing that you would like too? Like one of those ice sculpture shot dispensers http://aseasontocelebrate.wordpress.com/2011/02/22/ice-ice-baby/ or…. ????
Post # 12
ps// i would absolutely nott have beer pong at my own wedding because my parents would shit a brick. but i’ve played it with other friends’ parents. i would ask him how he thinks his/your parents and other older relatives would take it… if they’d take it in stride i would totally go for it. if not… it’s time to start coming up with alternatives 🙂
Post # 13
no. Beer pong is not a wedding event, even if you are having a back yard BBQ.
Maybe have a relaxed BBQ celebrating with his friends a few days before and let him kareoke and beer pong to his hearts desire at that? I would put my foot down.
Post # 14
I’m really amused that there’s now an ad for a beer pong table appearing on the right side of this page.
Post # 15
It sounds like you have different visions for your wedding and his is more laid back and fun while yours is more formal. I think you need to be honest with yourself about how much you respect his input and vision. It sounds to me like he doesn’t feel like what he wants matters, and the beer pong has become his Waterloo.
Maybe you could compromise and do the karaoke. (How is this worse or more bar-like than the stereotypical DJ & dancefloor anyway?) Maybe you could explain to him the reasons you don’t want beer pong, specifically, but agree to have some family friendly games?
You may have to relax or adapt your idea of the reception to take some of his ideas on board, but that’s going to hold true for many things in your marriage, and this is silly thing to make people feel like their ideas aren’t valued over and argue about.
And in the end, if what he really wants is beer pong, specifically, and it really matters to him, then I think you should find a way to make it work in your reception.
Post # 16
I said no and I love beer pong!!!