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Especially since it's just two of you, why not pick two different dresses in the same color?  My BP is doing that using Alfred Sung dresses (same color and fabric all).  And there are many other threads describing other people doing something similar (I'll put in a plug for the Dessy Group b/c that seems to be the most common group of designers people have used, esp. Lela Rose).

If you really, really want to be in the same cut/silhouette, I'd suggest a two piece with some kind of corset type top and a-line skirt.  That's what my sister had us all wear, and it was surprisingly versatile.  The two piece aspect makes it easier to fit also.  It might seem like a corset wouldn't flatter both a tiny and busty top, but it really does somehow.

I second the "same color/different dress" idea. I have 5 bridesmaids, all of whom have VERY different body shapes (pear, apple, stick thin, average, overweight), and I'm not going to force them to wear the same dress because I understand that different dresses in the same fabric will allow everyone to have a dress that looks amazing on them. :)

Well, unfortunately I personally have the opposite problem of dressing a larger sized chest.  I would think for comfort the other BM would definitely want fairly supportive straps (e.g. no strapless or halter).  And it's good to have them thick so you don't have to worry about bra straps peaking out of the edges which can be extra annoying if you're standing in front of a lot fo people. 

Maybe something like these:

http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/6549/?color=smashing&colorid=406

http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=16212&N=1200051&pCategoryId=193&categoryId=229&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_229&defaultColorNameFromCategory=Pistachio&defaultSizeTypeFromCategory=Misses

http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=12671&N=1200051&pCategoryId=193&categoryId=229&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_229&showAll=Y&defaultColorNameFromCategory=Evening%20Blue&defaultSizeTypeFromCategory=Misses

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3008738/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014214?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014214&P=2

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3008737/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014214?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014214&P=3

 For you, I think you could easily go strapless or spaghetti (though depends on your comfort level).  Possibly an a-line bottom and a tighter bodice so that you balance your chest while still getting the slimming effect of the waist, maybe like this:

 http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/6553/?color=smashing&colorid=406#FabricList=34,3&attributeMask=1&catid=1&colorlist=406&displaytype=GridMedium&activePage=2&rpp=9&SortOrder=Default

If weight fluctuations are an issue, I definitely would say go for fuller skirts for both of you, less alterations etc.

Anyway, I hope these ideas help.  I did notice that nordstrom's allows you to shop for dresses by body type, so even if you don't buy from there (and they do have some BM makers like Maggy London and Tadashi) it might be a good way to find silhouettes that could work.  One thing, though, is that I notice they have a lot of double-breasted V-necks for fuller busts, but I feel like that might not be the most flattering.  I haven't found a good example, but I do think that a corset style top can be very flattering with a fuller bust.

Ack, it's not letting me post with all the dress links, so I'll break it up into a couple posts:

Well, unfortunately I personally have the opposite problem of dressing a larger sized chest.  I would think for comfort the other BM would definitely want fairly supportive straps (e.g. no strapless or halter).  And it's good to have them thick so you don't have to worry about bra straps peaking out of the edges which can be extra annoying if you're standing in front of a lot fo people.  

For you:

 For you, I think you could easily go strapless or spaghetti (though depends on your comfort level).  Possibly an a-line bottom and a tighter bodice so that you balance your chest while still getting the slimming effect of the waist, maybe like this:

http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/6553/?color=smashing&colorid=406#FabricList=34,3&attributeMask=1&catid=1&colorlist=406&displaytype=GridMedium&activePage=2&rpp=9&SortOrder=Default
 

For the other BM:

Maybe something like these:

http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/6549/?color=smashing&colorid=406

http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=16212&N=1200051&pCategoryId=193&categoryId=229&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_229&defaultColorNameFromCategory=Pistachio&defaultSizeTypeFromCategory=Misses
 

Or:

http://www.anntaylor.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=12671&N=1200051&pCategoryId=193&categoryId=229&Ns=CATEGORY_SEQ_229&showAll=Y&defaultColorNameFromCategory=Evening%20Blue&defaultSizeTypeFromCategory=Misses

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3008738/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014214?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014214&P=2

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3008737/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014214?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014214&P=3

If weight fluctuations are an issue, I definitely would say go for fuller skirts for both of you, less alterations etc.

Anyway, I hope these ideas help.  I did notice that nordstrom's allows you to shop for dresses by body type, so even if you don't buy from there (and they do have some BM makers like Maggy London and Tadashi) it might be a good way to find silhouettes that could work.  One thing, though, is that I notice they have a lot of double-breasted V-necks for fuller busts, but I feel like that might not be the most flattering.  I haven't found a good example, but I do think that a corset style top can be very flattering with a fuller bust.