Post # 1
Ok, this is my first post and i need y’alls help! My FI and I are getting married next May. back in may we chose wagon wheel to be our first dance song because it reminds us of the weekend he proposed and the song is about north carolina where we got engaged. anyway- FI’s brother just got married last month and they had a keith urban song as their first dance, but wagon wheel was played later in the night and everybody danced to it. well last night FI and his brother were talking and somehow it came up that we were using wagon wheel as our song. i got a text from FSI later saying that she didn’t want us using wagon wheel because it was special to them. and she would feel awkward if we had it be our song. but it wasn’t their first dance song!
so now i don’t know what to do. 🙁 i can’t imagine not dancing to that song and we did pick it before their wedding. I just need to know what your thoughts are and what you would do.
Post # 3
@onesweetdayinmay: Play the damn song. That is one of the most high-school things I’ve ever read on here. She cannoy lay claim to a song. SMH.
Seriously: do not even respond to that text.
ETA: if you’re feeling confrontational, go ahead and tell her that the nature of songs is for them to be “special”…to a LOT of people.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
To heck with her. Your FSIL is being ridiculous. It can be your song if you want it to be!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@onesweetdayinmay: that’s crazy.
I would respond saying that you understand how she feels, but it’s a very special song to the two of you and hopefully she can understand that. Then don’t deal with this crazy issue any more! (Ignore any followup texts, etc.)
I can’t believe the nerve of that girl – that is seriously ballsy.
Post # 6
@onesweetdayinmay: Unless she has copyrights to it, then it doesn’t really matter what she wants. It’s your day, choose the song you want. If she’s so offended, she can leave the room. A song can mean something to a lot of people…it’s not mutually exclusive. This song is meaningful to me so it can’t be to you. Um, what? No.
Post # 7
Does she seriously think she can rule out your using every song they played at their wedding?
Post # 8
Use it and enjoy your first song!
Post # 9
@onesweetdayinmay: FSIL is an immature turd. Play the song.
Post # 10
@onesweetdayinmay: That’s so dumb. Omg. Lol, it’s special to you too. Play it.
Post # 11
@LilRhodyGem: +1. an immature turd is a good description.
OP, play the song. she’ll get over it. and if she doesn’t, screw it.
Post # 12
@onesweetdayinmay: Tell FSIL to grow up, she cannot lay claim to all songs she likes the meaning behind. I could understand if it was their first dance song, but it wasn’t so definitely go ahead and use it. Tough luck if she doesn’t like it.
Post # 13
Absolutely use the song. As PP’s said no one can lay claim to a song. I can see if they already used it for thier first dance, but they didn’t. That means fair game. If you feel up to it, you can explain to her why its so important to you. Any one in thier right mind should realize how silly it is to claim a song.
Btw, welcome to the hive!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Please play the song!
I can’t believe she had the nerve to ask you not to!! Wow.
Huge eye roll to her!