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I wore heels and my feel were killing me. I was worried I wouldn't be able to stand for the whole ceremony! Definitely go with what you are comfortable with! If I had to do it again, I would have work much shorter heels or flats!
It's not tacky to wear flats at all on your wedding day. I actually plan on wearing flats for my ceremony because it will be 90 min long and I am not putting myself through the pain of standing 90 min on marble floor. I plan on wearing heels for pictures and the reception, but I am comfortable in heels.
I'm not very comfortable in heels either and I plan on wearing flats.
I'm already over 5'8" and my dress is floor length so who's gonna notice? lol
Wear what's comfortable for you or you'll regret it.
Thanks so much guys!
@ Kala way- I am 5'8" too and I would be much taller than my hubby to be if I tried to put on heels!
They have shoes with the tiniest 1 inch heels...would even those bother you?
I wore ballet flats (floor-length gown so you couldn't even see them) and was comfy the whole ceremony and reception!! (Sorry, don't have pics of the shoes)
I wore them for two reasons. One, I wanted my feet to be comfortable and two, I'm taller than my husband so I didn't want to be even taller.
Also, some wear heels for the ceremony and then flats for the reception, but remember that if you do this, the length of the dress will be longer with the flats and that could be a big problem!
The last thing I wanted was to be uncomfortable on my wedding day. My feet felt great and I was able to dance the entire reception!
Go for what every you feel comfortable in, and really if your sister wears heels daily then let her :) I have 2 very tall BM and i would never expect them to wear 3 in heels in my wedding...I am going for longer dresses as well :) If you wanted appease the sister (not that you should!) but the Kitten Heel is going to be super popular in 2011 (just saw this on the news!) you could do a low kitten will look so cute!
I already know 100% that I want to wear flats on my wedding day. I don't like heels and I want to be comfortable. Overall though I want to have a laid back, cozy wedding. If your wedding is very formal, flats might be strange.
im wearing flats! :)
i knew i didnt want to be anywhere near as tall as FI and he is only about 4 inches taller than me so flats were my best choice - plus they are comfy! and i didnt want to spend alot of money on shoes that ill wear once for my wedding and never again.
i bought some cute red flats that ill def wear again
I'm DEFINITELY wearing flats. I never wear heels, can't walk in 'em, and am not wiping out during my wedding for the sake of fashion. Be your wonderfully comfortable self on your wedding day. Stay strong!
I wore flats, because, like you, I never wear heels!
Your wedding shouldn't be a time to try out being something that you're not - it's a time to celebrate your love, not wear the trendiest shoes your sister can put on your feet, haha.
Go with what makes you feel like yourself, but confident and pretty.
@ashleetoo: Wow, I could have written this myself! I have juggled this with in my head as well and heard friends say similar comments. I'm wearing flats because I know myself and I know I would end up making a fool of myself if I tried to wear heels. I want to be comfortable and the last thing I want to be worrying about is my feet! I think if your the most comfortable in flats, go with them! You want to be relaxed not stressed about not if you're going to fall, but when! Yay to flats!! :)
Why would flats be tacky? I don't understand why that would be. I looooove me some sparkley flats!
I'm buying two pairs - a pair of heels for ceremony and pictures, then flats to swap into. I'm NOT a heel person, so I know I won't last in my cute heels for more than a few hours!
I think you should wear flats if that is what you are comfortable with and would prefer! I'm wearing flats as well :)
I will definitely be wearing flats! I considered the compromise of heels during the ceremony and flats during the reception, but I really dont want my dress to be dragging the ground for the reception, so I'm sticking with flats all day :)
I'm not even sure I understand how flats could be considered tacky in any way! You don't want to be miserable in heels all day (and that misery would show in your pictures too.) There are plenty of dressy flats that will fit the formality of your wedding and you have plenty of time to find the perfect pair!
I say go with what is comfortable. If that means flats then I would stick with that. It is going to be a long day and you want to be as comfortable as possible.
I have also chosen to wear flats
1. More comfortable
2. More height between my FH and myself
WOW! Thanks for all the support guys! You all have made up my mind, I will def be wearing flats. I not a heels person, so I dont think my wedding day would be the day to bust out in a pair. It wouldnt be a matter of IF I fall but a matter of WHEN! :o)
I am so late to this party but I never wear heels either and got a pair of 3/4 wedges (so pretty much flat). They looked great! I am so happy I had a comfy pair of shoes to spend the day in. =)
I'm going to have to wear a little heel, because my dress is tea length, and flats would make my legs look like they're 2 inches long. So I am starting my quest for heels 8 months in advance. I never wear heels, so I'm hoping for something between 1.5-2.5 inches.
If my dress was floor length, I'd be definitely wearing flats though.
I PERSONALLY think flats are tacky for bride to wear with a formal wedding gown... I feel like flats are too casual for the occasion..
I'm just like you, I never ever wear heels. So when i was looking for shoes I was thinking of doing flats too. But then I came across some pretty low wedge heels with a peep toe. Maybe you could try something like that? Also just a thought, are you going to be outside at all? For pictures or any other part of the wedding? Heels are annoying outside cause they sink into the ground. I'm actually having an outdoor ceremony, which is another reason i chose the wedge heels. Good luck!
i'm having the same dilemma...i thought i would do flats (since i am 5'8) but i also like the idea of a sparkly heel
I have to wear flats because my fiance is my height ^^;; But if I could, I would wear heels. I think they make you walk nicer, give you better posture, and make your legs look super nice.
Maybe buy a pair (or borrow) of heels to just walk around in? Maybe practice and then see if you think you can stand it I'd say go for it! If not, there is nothing wrong with a pretty flat!
Good luck!
Also, these are the flats I'll be wearing. I plan on lacing in some tulle and tying it like a ballet slipper.
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Especially since you never wear heels, I say go with the flats! You can find some adorable and really cute flats out there nowadays -- that shouldn't be an issue. If anything, you could do some sort of a flatter sandal, too.
I found my heels (which are pretty low ones) and months later found the same shoe but in the ballet flat version! I love them! I plan to wear the heels for the ceremony and photos, then whip them off and put on the flats for the rest of the night.
How are ballet flats "Tacky"?!
Okay, yes, if you were talking about converse sneakers or something, I can see how they'd look odd in a formal wedding.
But, if you're wearing a floor length gown, you won't even see the shoes!
Flats aren't tacky! I love heels but didn't want to be the same height as my fiance!. So I wore these - and loved them. I was comfortable - you really didn't see them at all but the people that did loved them!
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My fiance is the same height as me as well, and he's pretty much forbid me to wear heels on the wedding day haha
Even so, I would have worn flats anyway. Since my dress is long and no one will really see them I do not see the point in worrying about tripping or being uncomfortable.
The only way I think flats could look weird is with a tea-length dress, as PP have stated. Otherwise, the only way anyone sees your shoes is if you happen to lift up your dress, and even then flats can look perfectly cute, like in the shot with the yellow shoes above. I'll also be wearing flats--FH is my height, and our reception is outside and I don't feel like sinking into the lawn. Currently loving this shoe in the pink:
http://www.katespade.com/product/index.jsp?productId=10776379&cp=2632454.1866712
not so much that flats are tacky, but you want to look your best on your wedding day and heels will definitely add height and make you look slimmer. if you're not used to heels, get wedges, they feel like wearing flat sandals, even the 4+ inch ones!
save the flats for your reception
I wouldn't say flats are tacky. But personally, I don't feel "dressed up" in flats. So I wouldn't wear them at any formal occasion.
I feel like heels just complete the look and also make me stand up straighter and carry myself better...which makes me feel more polished looking.
That said, you should wear what you feel comfortable with.
@ashleetoo: I see you already decided to wear flats, so good for you! I never wear heels even though I love how I look in them. However, no matter how gorgeous they are, there's nothing sexy about the bride teetering down the aisle because she never walks in heels! If you're uncomfortable or worried that you're going to fall, heels aren't worth it IMO. There are some gorgeous formal flats out there. Like PP have said, no one will see your shoes if you're wearing a floor length gown, so don't worry about it. I was afraid I wasn't going to get any pretty shoe pictures, but my photog made my plain gold Steve Madden flats look gorgeous!
It's your day, I say wear whatever the heck you want to!!
I think flats would look a little odd with a tea length dress, but if it's long...flats all the way. I love me a pair of beautiful heels, but it's not very practical for shoes that you're going to be wearing all day.
I hate heels too... I decided to compromise because my Bridesmaids are wearing 3.5 inch heels and I didn't want to be the short one! I am wearing VS platform flipflops - height and comfort :)
I am 5'3" and my fiance is 5'11". If I wear heels then I will almost be as tall as him... which I want him to be way taller than me because I think it's masculine. Also, I LOVE the way heels look on me and other people. But when I wear them, I barely know how to walk and i feel unconfident and awkward. It's almost embarrassing. I do want to have sexy shoe pictures, but more importantly, i want to be able to be comfortable and feel like myself on my wedding. I am a flats girl, so i am going to wear flats on my wedding. If I want to buy a pair of heels for a couple of the pictures, then I might do that. it is my wedding day and i want to be myself and feel like myself... do whats most comfortable for you!!
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Hello everyone, let me first say that I LOVE the bee. I have become completely addicted. If it werent for you guys and your creative minds and support I would be completely lost in planing my wedding. I have found so much inspiration here that I am now super excited for my wedding in may, which leads me to...
Flats vs. heels? I never wear heels....EVER! I always wear ballet flats with everything, including dresses. I want to look nice and elegant on my wedding day of course. I am really dreading the thought of wearing heels. I really am quite horrible at walking in them and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I WILL fall at some point in time. I thought about wearing heels at me ceremony and flats at my reception but honestly, I just dont want to. However, my bridesmaid/sister has very different opinions (who wears heels DAILY). She thinks it would be tacky.
My question to you is, did you wear flats on your wedding day? Whats your opinion on a bride in flats? If you did wear flats, do you have pics from your wedding?