HELP! Friend's ExBF is coming over- Her STD is on my fridge…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@theEguarantee:  Just take it down and put it back up. Take the higher road. If she is not rubbing it in his face, no need for you to do it for her.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@theEguarantee:  I can’t imagine wanting to do something that would knowingly hurt someone’s feelings- in this case leaving the magnet visible.

Take it down.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

That’s an awful lot of backstory for a problem about a magnet 😉

Life can be funny sometimes, but I think that you are overthinking this. You don’t have any obligation to hide magnets from your guests IMO…whether or not he knows about his ex’s upcoming wedding is between them, but it is not your obligation to go out of your way to keep it a secret from him.

I very much doubt he will carefully inspect your fridge, and if he does, he might already know about the wedding/not care! They broke up over two years ago.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@theEguarantee:  I think you should not worry about it either way and just leave it where it is. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@theEguarantee:  I don’t think you’re rubbing it in his face by leaving it up.  Why should you go through all this stress over a relationship that you were never part of?  Don’t do anything special just because he’s coming over.  If he was single and miserable and depressed that would be another story.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@julies1949:  Do you really think that it would hurt his feelings? I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone either but I just can’t imagine it being a big deal.

They broke up years ago and it sounds like they have both moved on. He might already know that she is engaged, or not care. No one has specifically told her that he needs to have this information kept a big secret from him, it almost seems strange to go way out of her way to hide it!

Post # 9
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8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@PromiseRooster:  LOL! I thought the same thing about the long backstory. Not. That. Serious.

I would take it down while he is there. Simple.

Post # 10
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744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would leave it up.  Not to rub his face in it but because I don’t have time to worry about people’s past makeups and breakups.  He’s happy, she’s happy so whats the big deal.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Is this a for real question? You’re all adults? Both your friends have moved on in their lives with other people. There is no need for hand-wringing about the std on the fridge. 

Post # 12
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744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ebarnes0:  +1 I agree with you there.  If I knew he was unhappy and still dwelling on their past relationship I would take it down.  But he is happy with his gf.  If he wants to be on the fridge he needs to pop the question! haha

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you like his new girlfriend, take it down.  Would you want to go to someone’s house and see pics of your boyfriend’s ex?  No. 

Post # 15
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10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It sounds like they’re both happy and have moved on, so I wouldn’t even worry about it. 

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