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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    I just got the beyond heartbreaking news that a good friend of mine from work lost his 6 year old son today. I am devastated.  What can I do for him? I don't even know how to find the words or to find anything that could provide comfort to someone during a time like this..... thoughts?

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    Oh my gosh! I can't even imagine. What happened? I don't know what to do. I don't think there is really anything you can say or do to make it better. Maybe just be there if they need a shoulder or try to help get some things done for them, even if its just common day stuff like take the garbage out!

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    he was sick with a high fever, apparently the fever went down and they thought he was doing better, and then he passed away in his sleep.  My friend was out of town for work when his son died.  its honestly the most tragic awful thing and I don't have a clue what to do, if anything can even be said or done that would help at all.

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    Wow this is terrible.  I have no advice.   Make yourself more than avialable to help with anything they may need.  Wow....

     
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    Rosie Girl    September 18, 2010   Montana

    wow. i would just try to be there. you can't really say or do anything to make someone feel better at a time like that. just make yourself available.

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    That is something that would suck the life outta me if it happened.  I am so sorry for that family and will remember them in my prayers.  It's an unimaginable pain.

     
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    golfgal25    October 15, 2011   Canada

    My friend just lost his fiancee - the Canadian journalist who was recently killed in Afghanistan.  There was nothing you can say to make the pain go away, but as long as they know you are there for them, that's really all you can do.

     
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    Miss Pinot Grigio    March 21, 2009   Indianapolis, IN

    Wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. =( I'll keep your friend's family in my prayers. The loss of a child is such a difficult tragedy to cope with...there isn't much you can do, other than let them know you're there for them in their time of loss.

     

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    OMG, that is so heartbreaking.  I am always rocked when I hear of such a young child passing away.  I think I'd send him a card that expressed my condolenscenses.  There really is no right thing to say, I think if you just show your genuine emotion, and you don't just say nothing, it will mean a lot to him.  God, that is just so horrible.

     
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    leelee    February 21, 2010   NH

    this just made me cry when I read that...I have 3 young sons and can't even fathom what these parents are going through..just let him know your there if he ever needs anything..that's all you can do right now...My prayers are with this family...how sad

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    thanks for all your input - and prayers.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Just be there for them. Come by and check on them or drop them a message. Bring some food over (a sandwich tray--trust me, they WILL forget to feed themselves). Honestly that is all you can do.

     
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    Querida       Sugar Land, TX

    How tragic!  You've received some great suggestions in previous comments. 

    If you are looking to do something for the family - offering to watch the house during services or set up for visitors is helpful.  When a family member of mine passed, a relative bought a star through the star registry.  It was touching and a sweet way to memorialize the person.

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    There really isn't much you can do for them but to be there for them. My boss lost his daughter at birth and it was a huge hit on our company. We were all confused and devastated. As a whole we sent his family flowers and a card and let them handle this in peace. It's been three years but we still think about it.

     

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