help friends wedding

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@jennmc85:  Are you apart of the bridal party or coming just as a close friend who is a guest?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

8 weeks??! It would be great if you could tell the bride to shove it. But I’m assuming she’s your friend, so maybe not.
A good compromise would be for them to record the practices or dance moves, so you can learn them at home.  If you can go in person to half the practices or even just two or three, you should be able to learn the moves. 

Post # 5
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1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@jennmc85:  That seems unreasonable of her. You should talk to her about it.

Post # 7
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

8 weeks of practice? What’s she expecting? The Royal Corps de Ballet?

That’s a huge ask of anyone regardless of their circumstances. Surely a couple of practices and then rehearse at home to the music should suffice? Or even a couple of longer practices rather than so many would be enough. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@jennmc85:  I say record it but at least try to make it to a few of the meetings if you can. Maybe every other weekend if you can?

Post # 9
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jennmc85:  if i were you, i would bring the kids to the practice.  see how that works out.  if the bride gets upset about it, tell her that learning a dance does not warrant the cost of a babysitter, especially for 8 weeks.

also, maybe you can just watch the dance for a while and then have one of the other bm sit out and sit with the kids while you learn your steps.  there’s no reason why you can’t practice at home after this.

where is the practice taking place?  at a studio?

Post # 11
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11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, with all the trouble you’ve had with her, I’d probably drop out.  I would tell her with your job, husband, and children, you don’t have the amount of time or money she’s requiring to participate in her wedding.

Post # 12
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11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jennmc85:  i did read your other post and it sounds like normal bm stuff and a very stressed bride.  it has nothing to do with why you can’t bring your kids to the dance practices.  by the sounds of it, i don’t know why you haven’t dropped out yet.  this bm position sounds like it’s adding too much stress in your life.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

“I’m so sorry but I just can’t commit to that time commitment. I’d love to learn the dance moves but I can’t commit to more than 2 lessons. If you really need me for all 8, then I think it might be best if I step down as a bridesmaid – I don’t think I can give you the support or time committment you need.”

 

Post # 14
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2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@jennmc85:  THIS IS THE MOST ASANINE THING I’VE EVER HEARD!!!

 

I absolutley agree with bringing your kids, even if it is just to ruffle her feathers.  She’s asking something ridiculous of you! 

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