HELP! Getting involved with a guy at my company.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I was always told “Never shit where you eat.” I didn’t listen my husband and I work for the same co. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

chicagoworkinggirl:  We dated for 9yrs! There were times we broke up and it was awkward but always maintained our professionalism.  It helped because we were open about it the president of our co knew and basically gave us his blessing. Most of the time we worked on different projects so it wasn’t like we worked together every day. I think if you’re going to start a relationship with this guy you both should discuss the what ifs. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I also met my husband at work. We even work in the same department and if my director never leaves, I would be in line to become DHs boss. 

This situation has worked for us but it doesnt always. It seems your situation is a little different because you aren’t working together. If things don’t work out with you for some reason, just remember not to talk about it at your job.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I dated my first real boyfriend at my first job. I have not done it since then, however, your situation sounds different. You don’t really see each other at work. I know a girl who dated a number of guys who she met through work. It ended up being awkward whenever her exes came through, and the guys would try to avoid even showing up there, haha!

If you both are in different departments and don’t see each other, not much will change. I actually think you should go for it! Usually, I would say to wait and see or avod it altogether, but you don’t see each other at work. But your situation is different from most. Good luck, and I hope it works out!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

FI and I work for the same construction company. We kept our relationship on the DL for as long as we could, due to the nature of our coworkers. That is, construction men gossip worse than old ladies playing cards, and they are merciless and vulgar when they decide to tease. The only reason it didn’t stay secret from everyone at work is we both have family members who also work for the company. 

If you work on different floors and rarely see each other during the work day, I say it’s worth it to see where it goes. 

That said. No flashing your relationship at work. Keep it professional when you’re in a professional setting. Everyone knows about us but we don’t go around holding hands and kissing everytime we see each other. 

Post # 8
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2920 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Also work with my future husband…doesn’t work for everyone but it really really works for us! I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I say go for it!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it can work, but I’ve always been pretty conservative about dating men at work. If you do decide to date each other, keep it under wraps. The less drama the better.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I also don’t think it’s that big of a deal, especially if you can avoid each other easily at work if something were to go wrong.  I think it’s actually a really natural and obvious place to meet people through your work.  I work at a high school and there are like 6-7 sets of married teachers there! I went on a few dates with a co-worker once, decided I wasn’t into him more than as friends, and to this day despite being married (to someone else, not a coworker!) now it’s still awkward (more on his part).  However, we have no reason to interact at all so it’s not been a big deal whatsoever. 

I think you’d definitely regret not pursuing this more than you would if you did and it didn’t work out.  Go for it!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 9 months ago by  MmeVT.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My husband and I met at our company. THey’re also really lax about that sort of thing where we work – as long as it doesn’t affect your work, who the hell cares? Don’t let the fact that you work together scare you off. It’s a silly reason not to get involved with someone.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I work in a large company and know so many couples that met at work. I also know a bunch of people that had awkard situations when things didn’t work out. It could go either way but if there’s chemistry I say go for it!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

chicagoworkinggirl:  I met my fiance at work.  Normally I wouldn’t think it’s a good idea unless you work in completely separate departments… just in case! Good luck!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

chicagoworkinggirl:  If you don’t work directly together and don’t run into each other at work, I think it’s okay. I would still take it somewhat slow, though.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I met my FI at work! Seems like you guys work far enough apart that it wouldn’t be an issue. I say go with it and see what happens. I’d hate for you to miss out on something great!

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