- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I am in desperate need of some help here! Its 3:30 am, and I can’t sleep a wink, because…..we went ring shopping today. Like the for real, lets buy it today, this is it kind of ring shopping.
So here is what happened:
Long story short, I know a wholesale diamond dealer. He likes me, he gives me great prices, yada yada. I really want a three stone ring, and we have the two side stones already, one from each of his Grandmother’s rings. Super special and meaningful. They are each about .6 carat. The center stone he wants to buy himself. So today, we looked at a 1.1 carat round brilliant, and a 2.2 carat round brilliant. My lovely diamond guy saw how much I LIT UP when he brought out that 2.2 carat diamond, and is offering us a FANTASTIC discount (the 2.2 is only $750 more than the 1.1).
HERE IS THE PROBLEM:
My guy is worried about what other people (namely his parents) will think if he buys me such a large diamond. He is going to law school next year, and he thinks that buying a ring like that will make them rethink helping him out with tuition. I think that they are reasonable and practical people, and when we tell them what a great deal we got, they will understand. He is also worried that it will look "gaudy" because we are relatively young (I will be 24 next week).
By the way, our ring budget is not gigantic by any means, we are maxing out at 7k, even if we get the larger diamond….see I told you it was a deal, and its a goooood diamond!
Anyway, I need some help on this. He says the money is not the issue at all, and I am trying to walk a fine line because I know that I have the ability to get my way, but I want us BOTH to be happy with the ring choice. Not saying I would not be happy with the 1.1. I would. VERY happy. But I got that "feeling" when he brought out the big boy. How can bigger not be better? I guess opposites really do attract, one of the things I love about my guy…. he is so practical while I can be too fanciful…
Wow. It’s late and I am rambling, if anyone is still reading this, I would appreciate any advice you have!