Post # 1
I have always loved the idea of a head table – i think sweetheart tables are cute but i like how a long head table kind of centers the room and the bride and groom are in the spotlight – Anyway – i have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. I originally wanted to put them all up there with us but some have dates and some dont and i DO NOT want to separate them from their dates. so would it be strange to have it set up like this?
If you are looking at the table it will go:
Dad, Mom, Boyfriend of MOH, MOH, ME, Groom, Best Man, Best Mans Wife, FMIL, FFIL
the only thing i dont like about this is that it pust our parent in a position to not have a lot of conversation at dinner.
anyone have any other suggestions?
Post # 3
I think your FILs might be a little offended to be put at the back of the table. I would tread carefully with that one.
We can’t fit our whole bridal party and their dates up there, either, so we’re just going to have some of them and have our parents at a separate table with the FILs.
Post # 4
@jo.lee: Good thinking! maybe ill just put the Bridal Party members who are in serious relationships/marriages up their with their dates and put the other ones who are just bringing dates at a round table together.
Post # 5
i would put the parents at separate tables with family.
Post # 6
I agree with kitzy, I would have the parents sit with family and not at the head table.
Post # 7
Pleae don’t separate dates from the WP. It’s really a horrible way to spend the night (sorry, my opinion). No one wants to be mouthing ‘hello!’ to their date all night, you know? Plus, if you are in a sweetheart table then you do have all of the focus. Did you ask you WP what they prefer? My sis mentioned it and I told her I’d have to drop out as a BM as I’m not okay at all at being on display for everyone to watch me chew my food, lol. Plus, I love my bf and want to sit with him.
Post # 8
My FI was recently in a wedding where i didnt know anyone else very well (everyone i knew was IN the wedding) and he had to sit at the head. Granted, I can survive on my own for a few hours for the sake of someones wedding, but my FI ended up just pulling up a chair next to me right after the toasts. Most of the wedding party ended up doing the same.
So i would do the set up you suggested and maybe give the parents their own table.
Post # 9
I am having a head table and plan to include dates of the WP. It might ‘ruin’ the aesthetic I am going for, but makes the WP and dates so much more comfortable. I was at a wedding 2 years ago with my fiance where I knew practically no one. He was at the head table and I was left at a round with a bunch of strangers. Nice strangers that are now friends, but it made for a long dinner without my date!
Post # 10
Do you have siblings? You could sit with your siblings and their dates? or a mix of siblings and MOH date and BM and date.
As long as its round I wouldn’t worry about anyone being at the “back” of anything.
Post # 11
Oh i will def put them with their dates no matter what – i would never separate… but i guess my problem is that some of our WP have dates and some dont so i worry that it will mess up the “look” i if i have the whole wedding party up there – some with dates and some without. maybe i need to revisit this sweetheart table idea – but im more in favor of us not sitting alone but rather with our friends. Maybe just the MOH and Best man and dates? is 6 people too small for a head table?
Thanks Yall for the input!
Post # 12
@lefeymw: we have a lot of siblings haha! FI has 7 sisters and 5 brothers. i have 2 sisters and 2 brothers. (some in WP some not) my MOH is my oldest sister and is BM is one of his brothers.
if we go head table it will be a long table – there shouldnt be a back of anything as we will face the dance floor and the rest of the tables so it would be an “end” instead of “back”
haha i am at a loss – it shouldnt be this hard! but you ladies are great and i appreciate every response
Post # 13
I am not doing a head table at all. I plan on sitting at a table with our kids and whoever else wants to sit with us. I really want to be sitting with our guests and not separated. Maybe you can do a table with your closest friends/family and then scatter every one else out among the other tables.