Post # 1
Okay so I have been reading some threads on here about invitation RSVP dates and it is FREAKING ME OUT! I put our RSVP date as Sept 24th under the guidance of the invitation lady and now I wish I had made it sooner. Like Sept 1st or something. Why do so many of you have such early dates? Did I miss something? Does it have to do with where to seat people. Oh man I’m a big ball of stress right now. Helllllpppp!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
@Alip22: We picked September 1 as our RSVP date because we are hoping to invite a B List if we get enough declines. The RSVP date for the B List reply cards is September 15 (and my wedding is a week earlier than yours). We need to give a final head count to the caterer on September 22 and wanted a week to track down missing replies. When do you need your final number? Most likely you will be fine!
Post # 4
🙁 I didn’t even think about our small B-List. Ahhhhh well on our wedding website I could always request that people respon in timely manner please.
Post # 5
Our wedding is October 13 and our RSVP date is Sept 25….it’s really personal choice and what your agenda is. For us, we don’t have a “B-List” and the venue and caterers don’t need a head count until October 3rd, so by making it the 25th it gives us a week to follow up with any non-responses. Our guest list is only 100 people and 90% of the list is close family and friends who we already know are coming, so having a month leeway isn’t necessary for us.
Post # 6
@Alip22: If it makes you feel any better, I have been reading threads on here about the perils of an early RSVP date (people will reply yes but then back out later, people will decline because they’re unsure of plans so far in advance, etc.). Darned if you do, darned if you don’t!
And I don’t think we’ll be able to invite our B List either. As I have learned, people don’t send in declines until the very end so even September 1 is too late to get another round of invitations out with a reply date of September 15. Any earlier than September 1 seemed crazy to me for an October wedding.
Post # 7
Our RSVP date is a month before the wedding date. We did this because our venue needs our final headcount two weeks before the date, so I put in an extra two weeks to track down people/account for late responders. We don’t have a B-list.
Post # 8
Our RSVP date is September 22nd. We figured that was enough time to track down stragglers since we don’t have to have a final head count until 72 hours before the wedding. We had a small B-list (6 people) but because it’s so small, we’re just going to go ahead and invite them.
Post # 9
Our wedding is October 7th and we put our RSVP date as September 7th because that’s the what the invitation lady said to do. I like that it gives us a little leeway with contacting stragglers. I knew I personally couldn’t put it too close to the wedding date. I’d be full of nerves about getting the final count in LOL
Post # 10
@LittleRiver: Right! and yet I have seen a couple people on here with like August deadlines.
Post # 11
Our RSVP date is October 5. We chose an early date because:
a)we sent Save-The-Date Cards so everyone knows when the wedding is (mostly family anyways)
b) so I can do the escort cards with meal choice and seating chart
c)the venue wants a final count 2 weeks before the wedding and I am sure I will have to call some people to get meal choices
d)I’m someone who likes doing things ahead of time
Post # 12
I put our RSVP date for Sept 15. I didn’t have a B list. We needed to have our final numbers 2 weeks before the wedding (Sept 29) and making the deadline the 15th gave people time to figure out traveling arrangements (We had sent out StDs also) and gave me a week to call any guests who didn’t respond.
Post # 13
Yikes. I put mine about 6 weeks earlier than the wedding because I know most people are procrastinators. Plus I want time to do the seating chart and the place cards, etc. Oh well!