Post # 1
FI and I are both self-employed and we wanted to go to Paris for our honeymoon. Unfortunately, I found out my FI high debt load and we have decided to commit to a stern repayment and not go crazy. We paid for the wedding in cash, over 4 months. I am proud we coughed up almost 8K, and we have a little bit of money for the honeymoon.
My FI’s take on this is to wait another few weeks to see if a few more deals close, and then honeymoon end of August. My take is that Iwant time to plan Paris, and with a month to the wedding, we can’t really book it now now properly plan for it.
We both hopped on to different travel sights and saw some good deals for all inclusives…but he feels like we are settling. I am worried we will spend too much money in Paris…and then cut ourselves short when we get home.
Initially, my FI wanted a destination wedding and he said he would be really peeved if we didn’t go on a decent honeymoon…I agree, I mean, I didn’t have one the first go around and I have never been away from my kids for more than a weekend, and my oldest is 19. :S (youngest is 10)
So…what should we do? Should we go on a destination, go to Paris but delay it (like end of August…if we can book it and IF we have a sitter) or delay until our one year anniversary?
We found a package to Paris for 2500 with breakfast that we really like, but we still are on the hook for metro, sightseeing, food…
We found several packages at all inclusives for 1400-1600 all in that we liked…
I am happy to take also trip recommendations in either directions for those that got a great deal!!!
Big difference, obviously.
Post # 3
We had a wonderful honeymoon in Paris and the French countryside but please understand the dollar is weak right now, so since Paris is normally a high priced city it is even more now with the exchange rate. Now we did not cut corners but we spent with airfare, hotel, transportation and food just under $10k – we probably could have cut that down to $6k if we had tried to budget strictly and that was for 8 days.
So I would suggest saving up for a fabulous Paris trip for an anniversary and doing something smaller now or just waiting
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Post # 5
why don’t you take a little minimoon for a week after your wedding to an all-inclusive and then over the course of the year, save money for your big honeymoon to paris. that’s what we plan to do.
fyi: when we went to europe in 2010 we spent way may than we expected to.
Post # 6
@HisNightOwl2014: I’m with you— I love cruises! We’re doing a Mediterranean cruise for our HM.
I’d go for the all-inclusives to save $$, since it’s a concern. I know you’d love to get out & experience food outside of your resort, but to keep the funds in check, I really think the all-inclusive will help a lot.
Post # 7
The only way we were able to do Europe was by doing a cruise. If you seriously planned it out you could do Paris on the cheap. I was in your EXACT same situation and though we were barely able to afford the cruise, I would have put off spending money on a honeymoon I didn’t whole heartedly want, to save up for a great one. We drove up to reno nevada ( about 4 hours away and spent less than $300) and called it our mini moon. I had lots of fun and if we hadn’t been able to go to Europe I was happy with our mini moon til we saved up:)
Post # 8
I’d take a mini moon and save up to do the trip properly. It’s a long way to go just to have to cut back once you’re there. I don’t know that you could do a cruise that would include Paris though as it’s not a port city :/
Post # 9
Check out flash sale websites like groupon and gilt city for an allinclusive mini-moon (I have seen 5 day all inclusive to gorgeous Caribbean destinations for under $600 for two people! ) and then save up for an amazing honeymoon in Paris. I went to Paris last may, stayed in a very tiny not at all luxury inn, bought food primarily from grocery stores, and still spent over $2000 for ten days. You want to do Paris the right way when you go!
Post # 10
All inclusive can be a really nice time. After the wedding, you’ll honestly probably want a break. Why not do All Inclusive now, and then save for a year and do Paris for an anniversary trip?
Post # 11
@unixfairy: Freaking out about that 8K price tag-thank you for sharing..how much was your hotel and flight? How long did you stay?
@HisNightOwl2014: I looked at cruises and they seemed more expensive.Am I doing it wrong because I dont know anything about cruising. I looked at Viking after reading your suggestion and it was muchos doneros. 3K for the cruise not including flight.
@Angelz_love: Please help me-where and how idd you book your cruise?
@ticatica: Thanks for the advice!
@MattieK: I am kinda freaked out about the money we may spend when we get there. It is tough. I mean, we found a SUPER deal for Paris-2K for flight and hotel for 5 days…so a mini-moon to Paris. It would basically be like a weekend and we would have to cram in some minor sightseeing, but how much financial troule could we get into in a few short days (famous last words?!) lol
@QuietOne: Honestly, I want this, the more and more i think about it. Sun, sand, relaxation, yup. Sounds good.
I would rather do Paris at a year anniversary. And save..study, etc.
My FI is eing COMPLETELY stubborn and says we are having a Paris themed wedding and will look silly if we dont honeymoon in Paris and also that he said he would feel like it would be the runner up prize if we did an all inclusive.
I really dont know what to do here because I am pretty laid back about either one however, I dont want to do it on the cheap. I cant imagine going to Paris and looking at the waiter saying “Sorry, no dessert for me because I am on a budget”.
I dont know…more confused than ever!
Post # 12
Honestly, I would wait and do Paris on your 1-year anniversary and do a cruise or all-inclusive for your HM. Paris is NOT a cheap city and to fully experience you will need a good deal of spending money. Also, after planning a wedding all you are going to want to do is sit and relax and a trip to Paris wouldn’t exactly be relaxing. There is sooo much to see and do in the city that I would worry about getting worn out (as opposed to recovering from the stress and craziness that is wedding planning).
As far as your FI goes, I would try and play-up this latter angle. I don’t think all-inclusive would be a “runner-up prize;” I think it would be just what you need! And if your FI is embarassed to tell your guests you aren’t going to Paris for your HM, the two of you can explain that’s where you’re going on your 1-year anniversary trip because you wanted to so something more relaxing right after the wedding.