- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
This is a pretty unique situation…. Please read all the way through and give me any advice you have!
Four and a half years ago, I began teaching children with (moderate to severe) Autism.
I have had the opportunity to work in different classrooms, and have taught children age 2 through 12. I’ve grown to love and adore every single one of my students, but naturally, the very first group of kids I ever worked with holds an extra special place in my heart.
My first class was age 2-4, and included an adorable loveable little boy age 4 and his sassy, too-cute-for-words little sister, age 2. I’ve had the opportunity to babysit them on several occasions, and their parents are just as wonderful as they are. Many of the times I babysat, when Mom and Dad came home, I usually wound up hanging out an extra hour or so just chatting with them.
A side note about this family… I wish I could be closer to them!! The parents have so much in common with me in hobbies, tastes, views on politics and religion (I discovered this from our chats after babysitting nights). I love spending time with the parents as much as the kids. Yet the relationship is mildly awkward because, having been their children’s teacher, there is a professionalism boundary there that is difficult to cross.
A year after having the pleasure of teaching these two fantastic kids, I was moved to a different classroom. Babysitting opportunities have dwindled (the parents send requests directly to the new teacher, and new staff in the classroom are jumping on the opportunities!), and so I don’t get to see the kids as much anymore. So that professionalism boundary is not an issue anymore, but it’s awkward to finally find a way to break the ice.
SO, here’s my dilemma that I need your help with!
I want these two kids (they are now 6 and 8) to be Flower Children in my wedding. I think they would love it. The little girl is a bit of a princess, loves dress up, loves seeing herself in mirrors, and loves having her picture taken…. and the little boy loves to frolic and skip – I could picture them both hamming it up on the aisle!
These two kids have changed my life (I originally wanted to be a psychologist, but the chance to be their teacher changed my life goals and inspired me to stay in the field of Autism).
My fiance proposed to me last October, and one of first things I thought about was these two as Flower Children in our wedding. I was hoping for a chance to babysit them, where I could casually bring it up to the parents in person…. but no such chance has come up.
SO, since it has been nearly a year since I got to babysit them or see their parents, HOW do I go about asking them if they would allow their kids to be in my wedding???
I have their phone number and address, but no e-mail address. They live almost an hour from me.
- I could call them… but I am afraid it would “put them on the spot” and make it awkward for them.
- I could TEXT them, but that’s so impersonal! But it would give them a chance to think about it first, so I wouldn’t feel like I was putting them on the spot.
- I could write a letter, and mail it to them. But is that weird?
- I could call/text asking if they had a free day some weekend for me to stop by and see them and the kids… and then ask in person… but doesn’t that kinda seem a little creepy? Especially given how far away they live?
- I could text and ask them for their e-mail, and send them an e-mail? A little less weird than writing a snail mail letter, but still maybe weird?
What do you guys think?? Any other suggestions…??