Help…. how do i fix this Save the Date issue???

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh no! I feel so bad for you! And for your mom too – while she wanted to help she made extra work and stress.

I wish I had more advice for you. Maybe there were very few B-listers who got them. I hope so. But bottom line IMO is if they get an STD, they MUST get an invite. You may have to make cuts eleswhere. Otherwise there will be only hurt feelings and awkward conversations.

I would also say to have a convo with your mom that before she helps you (and emphasize that you are super grateful for her help) that she check to make sure that you are on the same page.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Stiletto13:  +1.

There is no real way to uninvite someone without just being a plain A-hole. It is likely some people will decline and hopefully only a few B list people got them. Good luck, hopefully it will all work out! 

Post # 5
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@Stiletto13:  +1.  There really is no polite way to uninvite people, mistake or not.  If you can’t accomodate them all,  then you are going to have to switch who is on the A and B lists.

Post # 9
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hopefully switching won’t be hard but don’t worry about that yet.  There is still the possibility that your mom didn’t send many or even any b list.  If it’s only 1 or 2, could you squeeze them in and hope your RSVP rate is lower than you are expecting?

Post # 10
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1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@msdeeds1019:  Cant you just compare the remaining potion of Save the Dates to your full invite list? I can’t tell from your post if she took ALL the Save the Dates, or just a portion of them. 

Post # 14
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1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@msdeeds1019:  I’m glad it worked out!

Just curious, why did you have a B list for your STDs? I mean, people don’t RSVP to STDs, so how would you even know to send out B list ones?

Post # 16
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1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@msdeeds1019:  haha I see! Wedding planning IS crazy, I’m glad it worked out with your mom though!

But yes.. Just STDs to your A, and if a bunch decline the actual invitations, THEN send invites to your B

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