Post # 1
I am trying to write my speech to give at the reception. Everything is going great, and it’s coming along awesome, except…I don’t know how to thank my dad.
My parents got divorced when I was young, and my step dad filled the “Dad” role way more than my father ever did. My step dad passed away last year, so I was planning on walking myself down the asile, but my dad got so excited at the idea of “giving me away” that I couldn’t break his heart, so I’m going to let him do it.
My dad mostly taught me how not to be, and because of that, I’m having an issue saying “Thank you”. I don’t want to say something and not mean it, so I’m hoping you guys can help me find a way to word thanks without having to lie.
He paid for all the tuxes, but that’s all he’s really done for the wedding. My mom has done a TON and I really want to let her know how much that has meant to me, but I can’t thank my mom and not mention my dad. Advice?
Post # 3
Thank him for what he has actually done for you, taught you or given you for the wedding.
Think of any positive memories and build from there. If you have to,thank him for being your Dad, walking you down the aisle and contributing to the wedding.
As you said, you don’t want to be insincere.
Post # 4
Thank you’s don’t have to be come an itemised list, but if you want to single your mom out for helping the most, mention her last.
“thank you so much Sally, John, Bill, Dad, and especially Mom for all your help and support over the last few months”
Post # 5
Like MissNoodles said, thank yous don’t have to be itemized so you can simply say “Thank you dad for being a part of such a special day”.
I’m not very close to my dad but my mom and I are really close and she helped me so much in preparing for the wedding. To show my love and appreciation, instead of doing a bouquet toss (I’m not really a bouquet toss kind of gal) I said a few words (along the lines of “thank you for making me into the woman I am today, thank you for loving me even when I didn’t deserve it, you’re the best mom a girl could have, I love you”) and gave her the toss bouquet. It meant THE WORLD to her which made me really happy. She kept the bouquet and is drying it to keep it because it all meant so much. 🙂
Post # 6
“Thank you for helping me become who I am today” Sounds incredibly givng but we all learn from mistakes too.
Without unpleasant experiences then I wouldn’t know what pleasant ones were like. Without learning what not to be like from your father, you wouldn’t know what you WANTED to be like. You can thank him for helping you become yourself, it is not a lie and it is not mean sounding. He will take it nicely I’m sure and it isn’t a fasle statement.
Post # 7
@AngelMR2: oh you said exactly what I had in mind. Better advice couldn’t be given.