Post # 1
We had originally asked my fiance’s best friend’s girlfriend to be in our wedding, his best friend and the girl have since broken up. I need a way to politely explain to her that it would be better is she was not in the wedding, I would like to keep things amicable between us because I do like her, and will see her every once in awhile. How do I do it without hurting her feelings?? HELP!! PLEASE!
Post # 3
I don’t think there really is a way to do it without hurting any feelings :/ Maybe just explain to her that now with them being broken up it would be a little uncomfortable. Will she still be able to attend the wedding?
Post # 4
I really don’t think that you can do it without hurting her feelings and possibly hurt the relationship with her. Just be honest with her and hope she understands.
Post # 5
No, she will not be invited to the wedding, we are planning on replacing her with my fiance’s cousinn and the girl and I were never really “friends” just aquaintences, I never really hung out with her outside of couples things. Maybe once or twice for a girls night with all the wives and girlfriends in our group of friends. I just dont want her to be mad at me, I think I would understand if I was in her position though.
Post # 6
Why did you have her in your wedding party if you aren’t even friends with her? I personally believe you have your closest friends/family stand up beside you on your wedding day. Sorry, I am actually kind of curious.
Honestly, her feelings are going to be hurt, and they are going to be double hurt when she realize that she is no longer invited to the wedding. Basically explain the situation as nicely as possible and see where it goes from there. That is really all you can do.
p.s: she maybe looking for a way out because he ex is going to be there. if that is the case then maybe she’ll be happy to get out of it.
Post # 7
Sorry but why in the world did you ask someone who you aren’t really “friends” with to stand up with you at the wedding? I am not trying to be rude but I too am curious as to what lead you to ask her?
Post # 8
I don’t get why she is in your wedding party in the first place?
I am sure she thinks it is just as awkward as you do and will be thankful for the out! So just explain that you the situation and I am sure she will understand. I don’t really know why you asked her or she accepted when you aren’t really friends anyway so I think it will be a non-issue!
Post # 9
I’m pretty sure she would understand… if she was just an acquaintance, then I’m sure she sees it coming, as it would be awkward for her too since they have broken up. I would just be straight up with her, say you asked her because she was with ____ at the time, but now it would be awkward to have her in the party and him in the party since they are no longer together. I’m sure she will understand. If I were in her position, I wouldnt want to be in it anymore either.
Post # 10
Wow, I am in a similar situation. The best man and his wife (a BM) are having some serious issues. I don’t know her all that well but she has been helpful. She is my FI cousin in law and they are all close. It never occured to me to ask her to step down. I wouldn’t even think of it unless it was unsafe for them. I think you have to ask yourself if they can get along for a day and how much has she invested in being in your wedding before you kick her out.
Post # 11
I am surprised she hasn’t offered to withdraw from the bridal party. Does she already have a dress?
Post # 12
I would try asking if she would like to step down. Liek sceder said, maybe she’s looking for a way out?
Post # 13
no, she does not have a dress. I asked her because we had more guys than girls and needed one more. I never thought they would break up, they had plans to get married and had been together for years.I sent her an email because she rarely answers the phone, I still have not gottena response. She saw my fiance a few weeks ago ( before the email) and puposely ignored him. I am assuming that she is ignoring the email, I am giving her until this Friday then calling her and leaving a message, do tyou think that is the right thing to do? What is the proper etiquette kicking a bridesmaid out of your wedding?