Post # 1
My FI and I are debating how long after the wedding ceremony to start the social at the reception. Our ceremony starts at 2:30 and it is a full catholic ceremony so it will be at least an hour. I thought we should start at 4 but he thinks 5. He is worried that there will not be anyone but a few people there if we start at 4 and it will look bad. I am worried that since for many people it will be out of town they will not have anything to do for that hour or so. What do you think? What are you all doing?
Post # 3
I hate having long gaps between ceremony and reception but sometimes (especially for church weddings) there’s really no option! How close are the two venues? If you started your reception at 5 at a different venue and your ceremony finished a little after 3.30, you would have time for family/group photos at the church and could possibly provide refreshments (or not, no biggie) so people could mingle during that time and it would probably be fine. If your reception venue is the kind where people can come in and get themselves a drink before you arrive, all the better.
We went to a wedding last week with an hour in between, DH and I didn’t know anyone apart from the couple so we took a drive around the park where the wedding was. It was quite pleasant. I have also gone grocery shopping, to the pub with friends, to my parents house for a cup of tea, etc. People are adults and they can look after themselves, at the end of the day 🙂
Post # 4
our ceremony is from 3-330 ( lol no long ceremony for us!! ) and ideally I want the reception to start at 5. that gives everyone an hour and a half to mosey their where to the site, and grab a cocktail while we do pics!
Post # 5
The reception is at another location, about 20 min away.
Post # 6
I would just say the reception starts after the ceremony, that way people will go straight away. I don’t think it will look bad because you probably won’t arrive until later anyways, right? People will have a chance to get a drink and mingle.
Post # 7
I wonder the same thing. Our Catholic church wedding starts at 1:30 and will most likely start at 2:30. We were going to start the cocktail reception around 5pm, Dinner after 6pm. But yeah there will be like a 2 hour gap. I guess the only thing we can do is provide a list of places they can visit if they are out of towners. Maybe someone can open their house for a few hours so people could take a break or something/nap.
Post # 8
Most couples need a fair amount of time for pictures. The families always use the wedding as an opportunity get some pics .
Personally, I don’t care what the gap is, as long as we know in advance what it will be and the bride and groomshow up to the reception on time.
Post # 9
We decided that we would start the social at 5 and dinner at 6. This gives us time to take pictures and enjoy inbetween (although we are taking a majority before the wedding). I have done some digging around and this seems very typical. We have listed somethings for guests to do inbetween and I think we are going to provide that in the programs also. Also with so many people out of town it gives them time to go back to their hotels and change, nap, freshen up. I feel really comfortable with this decision.
Thanks for the input it was very helpful!