Post # 1
How much money should I spend on a gift if I’m NOT going to the wedding? Or should I give a gift at all?
This is for a friend who I’m not that particularly close with and I had posted recently on here about whether I should attend her wedding earlier and everyone unanimously said no. And FI recently had surgery so I can’t go anyways. Now I’m thinking should I send her a gift? Is it expected? And how much should I spend or should I send a gift card of a certain value?
Post # 4
@weddingbee098: I send gifts for every wedding for which I receive any invitation whether I attend or not. The amount I spend usually depends on how well I know the bride and groom – $200+ for a family member or close friend, $75-100+ for an acquaintance.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’d get them something off their registry worth $50-75, or a gift card to Amazon / ine of their registry stores. That’s what I do in this scenario.
Post # 6
@weddingbee098: I think it also depends on your financial situation. I’m a grad student so I can’t spend much at all on anyone… prob right now my rule would be $100 for family or close friends and $30-50 for an acquaintance. If you’re working, it would be polite to send a gift, but I don’t think anyone ever has to send a gift. I certainly don’t expect it at my wedding.
Post # 7
It depends on your current financial situations. At the very least you should spend a card to acknowledge their union.
Post # 8
The last time I sent a gift and declined an invite I boight off the registry and it was a $30 tupperware set. The very last time I declined an invite I did not send a gift. Your prerogative.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@weddingbee098: Poll? I say $30-$50 gift off registry
Post # 10
@weddingbee098: A gift is never required. It is perfectly proper to simply send a card with your best wishes.
If you do feel moved to send a gift, spend however much you want to spend within your budget.
Post # 11
@weddingbee098: in the past, I didn’t send gifts for weddings I was invited to but didn’t attend, I recently started realizing that I felt guilty about it (not that people expected the gifts) I had always sent cards before.
I have sent gifts instead of money – for some reason I feel weird sending money when I’m not attending. It’s hard to say what dollar value you should spend, I would do whatever feels right to you.