Help: How much should I spend on this wedding gift??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@weddingbee098:  I send gifts for every wedding for which I receive any invitation whether I attend or not.  The amount I spend usually depends on how well I know the bride and groom – $200+ for a family member or close friend, $75-100+ for an acquaintance.

Post # 5
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’d get them something off their registry worth $50-75, or a gift card to Amazon / ine of their registry stores. That’s what I do in this scenario. 

Post # 6
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@weddingbee098:  I think it also depends on your financial situation. I’m a grad student so I can’t spend much at all on anyone… prob right now my rule would be $100 for family or close friends and $30-50 for an acquaintance. If you’re working, it would be polite to send a gift, but I don’t think anyone ever has to send a gift. I certainly don’t expect it at my wedding.

Post # 7
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

It depends on your current financial situations. At the very least you should spend a card to acknowledge their union. 

Post # 8
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The last time I sent a gift and declined an invite I boight off the registry and it was a $30 tupperware set. The very last time I declined an invite I did not send a gift. Your prerogative. 

Post # 10
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@weddingbee098:  A gift is never required. It is perfectly proper to simply send a card with your best wishes.

If you do feel moved to send a gift, spend however much you want to spend within your budget. 

Post # 11
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@weddingbee098:  in the past, I didn’t send gifts for weddings I was invited to but didn’t attend, I recently started realizing that I felt guilty about it (not that people expected the gifts) I had always sent cards before.

I have sent gifts instead of money – for some reason I feel weird sending money when I’m not attending. It’s hard to say what dollar value you should spend, I would do whatever feels right to you.

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