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I have seen threads on this before but I went down the list a little while and couldn't find any so I just wrote a new one. We just sent our invites this week, my dad told me he just got it today. So I wasn't expecting any rsvp's just yet. We got one already today (on our wedding website) so it was very quick, they must have rsvp'ed right when they got it, so you'd think they would be pretty close with us. Well.. not so much. The couple is younger and have two young children under teh age of four. They rsvp'ed their children as well, and we are having a more formal affair and are only having children in our immediate family attend (IE siblings children).

 Is there ANYTHING to do at this point? We addressed the invitations as such that we thought it was clear, no children. Is there anyway to kindly let them know children are not invited? I thought they would maybe have a clue when rsvp-ing the meal selection, that there was no children's entree choice, very adult food but they rsvped anyway. What can I do????

I have this SAME worry for my November wedding. After going through the guest list, we had anywhere from 20-40 KIDS that were kids of our adult guests!!! Many of our close friends have children already (even 3 of my bridesmaids have children under the age of 1 year), and we decided to make our event an adult only event. (Excluding the grooms brother and sisters who are in our wedding party as the flower girl and ring barer.) This was a hard decision because of the fear of offending those with children. However, I truly think that an evening formal reception (especially when alcohol is served) should be considered an adult only event, wedding included. It is YOUR day, and YOU are paying for it (or at least choosing where the money is spent) and that's why your guests are called "guests" and not "hosts." It's okay to put your foot down (in a very nice way) and explain that the event is adults only. You could even maybe send them a quick response via email saying something like, "Hi! I was SO excited to receive your RSVP and am so happy you are going to spend our special day with us! I'm looking forward to seeing you and John so much. Also wanted to double check that you knew the reception is an adult only reception, but we do have childcare options available on the website that others are choosing to use as well. Let me know if you need any other info about the babysitters, it's no problem at all! I can't believe our day is only 2 months away, it's going to FLY by. Looking forward to seeing you soon ;)

An email like that makes it not JUST about the children, but that you are SO excited to receive their RSVP. Maybe even include that they were the first ones and it made your day. I would do it yourself though because if you get someone else to "hint" at it, and they don't do a good job at "hinting" then those guests are going to feel like you were talking about their children behind their backs, and that could create awkwardness.  I don't know...just be SUPER nice and they can't really be upset with you! (At least that is what I'm hoping for when we deal with this issue in 2 months!!!) GOOD LUCK!