Post # 1
Though we won’t be sending out the invites for a little while, we’re trying to get our set list in place for STD etc. I’m having the hardest deciding what to do with my coworkers. I work in a very small office (it was a startup company) and I have been there for over 2 years. As the company grew and we hired more people, we hired people that I was friends with or had worked with in the past. Now that the team has grown- 3 of the 6 people are people I brought in. In any case- we’re trying to have a small wedding. I know I definitely want/need to invite my two bosses and one of my co-workers is in the wedding but I’m not sure what to do about the others. In total there are 10 people who work in my office and they ALL have significant others. That means bumping our guest list by twenty people!! I’m not sure if it’s ok to just invite the bosses and the bridesmaid? I feel like I couldn’t pick and choose when the office is so small. Can I invite those who were already friends and the bosses? Or do I invite everyone?
I feel like I have to make a decision soon because people are starting to ask what our plans are etc! Small office means lots of personal talk!
Post # 3
I would invite all of the people you hang out with outside of work and no one else…that’s what I did. I invited my boss and two friends…didn’t even invite immediate coworkers (people I sit by and work with every day) because they annoy the everloving crap out of me and I didnt want to see them at my wedding haha. Just tell them you are having a small, intimate wedding and they will probably understand…that’s what I did!
Post # 4
Why not just not send STD’s to your co-workers and then make a decision closer to the time of the wedding. What would happen if you send an STD to one of the terriary members now, and by the time the wedding comes they are no longer working with you? You would still have to invite this person whom you didn’t really care about in the first place.
If people ask you questions you are able to answer them. Just don’t bring your wedding up as a topic of conversation and you will be in the clear.
Post # 5
Seeing as theyre co-workers you could just invite them and not their SOs, they’ll know plenty of people. In the UK evening receptions are very popular (inviting additional people after dinner for dancing and maybe cake)
Post # 6
@andielovesj: I agree. I didn’t send Save-The-Date Cards to any coworkers except the one who is a Bridesmaid or Best Man and she works remotely so doesnt talk to too many people. I may invite one other current coworker. Sometimes my coworkers or boss ask me about my wedding but I keep it short and simple. I don’t think anyone is going to ask if they are invited, I’m sure my boss thinks she will be, but shes not. I’m just telling people we’re having a small wedding for just family and close friends.