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Help! How to negotiate with my ceremony venue?

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    LittleBruin    June 18, 2011   Los Angeles, California

    Hi bees,

    I don't know if this is the right board to post this question...

    I have no clues how to negotiate with my ceremony venue. The package is $800 for 15 guests. The package includes: officiant, cake, fruit & cheese platter and sparkling wine. The venue is in a backyard garden of the officiant's house.

    However, now my guest list has more than 15 guests. I have 7 additional guests. The owner/officiant will charge more. Don't have the additioanl cost yet...but sounds like she wants to make a profit on additional guests...

    How do I approach her to keep my price at $800? Should I ask her NOT to prepare the food? Or ask her about the breakdown of the service and food in the package so I have a better idea how much she will charge me for extra?

    But I am concerned about her attitude b/c she will be the one to perform my ceremony...maybe she will get offended and just be like "whatever" as my officant?

    How should I make my next move? E-mail or phone call?

    Need some help here! Thanks a lot!

     
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    missmichigan    July 2, 2011  

    @LittleBruin: I would just make it clear that you don't have a lot of money for the wedding.  Also, I think it's a good idea to get a break-down of the charges so you have a better understanding of what you're paying for.  Think of a reasnable amount and offer that.  Say, I'm willing to pay $1000 total to have 25 guests.  That's a good place to start.

     
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    figment    September 7, 2012  

    Well, you're effectively asking for 25% more, for free.

    I don't necessarily think that's reasonable. I think the PPs suggestion of offering a negotiated rate for more guests is fair, but I don't think just asking to have 7 extra people for free when the package was for 15 is a reasonable request. I would not expect her to be happy about that.

     
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    LatteLove    June 19, 2009   Chicago/San Diego

    really interesting situation. I think you have to be honest. It's only fair that you are charged more for more guests.

    I think you should look over what the $800 is covering, have a number in mind (I think $900-1000 is totally reasonable considering you're increasing 50%)

    Go into the conversation educated and prepared, but understand that more guests will cost the vendor more money!

     
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    LittleBruin    June 18, 2011   Los Angeles, California

    @LatteLove:

    I am thinking to ask her "DO NOT" prepare the food for us. Will that be reasonable?

    Basically she will have no cost for the food. The $800 will just for her service & venue rental fee.

    I am bring my own chairs. She does not have any chairs. I am bringing my own florist too. She does not really need to set up anything...

    So basically the $300 is for her officiant service and $500 for venue rental for 2hrs.

    Does this sound fair to her?

    Thanks!

     

     
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    june42011    January 29, 2012   NORTH DAKOTA

    @LittleBruin: You can always ask but don't expect it. I know some places that ONLY supply the venue but they do charge based on per person. The reason behind it is the idea that it costs more to in insurance and it takes into consideration the cost of cleanup for that many people.

     

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