Help!!! Husband bought jewelry that is all wrong!!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Get him drunk and hope he doesn't notice or be honest and risk a ruined night?
    Pour those drinks, he won't notice when you don't wear them : (24 votes)
    55 %
    Be honest even though the night may be ruined : (20 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 2
    1787 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Are you sure the light blue ones are aquamarine?  Sapphires come in light blue too.

    I would try to gush about how beautiful they are and try them on.  Then let him know that, even though you think they’re beautiful and thoughtful, you’re worried they might fall off and get lost or damaged.

    Post # 4
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Definitely just wear them and pretend to love them. He’s going to see they’re too big so they’re going to have to be taken in- let him realise the mistake instead of you bringing it up!

    Why not say something like, oh the light blue almost matches the sapphires in my ring and see what he says.

    Post # 5
    4649 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    MissTexasFire:  Totally reminds me of my ex-. He’d always buy me jewelry that wasn’t my taste. As in he knew what type of gold I only wear, that I don’t wear bracelets, and that I don’t like my birthstone. Yet he’d buy me the wrong gold, bracelets, and my birthstone. I told him and it still didn’t work. So I have a bunch of jewelry I never wore. Hey, maybe he was trying to tell me something? Lol! Good luck! I say you need to tell him and he needs to not be so sensitive. There are tactful ways to talk about things.

    Post # 7
    320 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Tell him you love them and thank you, and then get the bangles resized and wear and enjoy them. 

    Post # 8
    124 posts
    Blushing bee

    MissTexasFire: Firstly, congratuulations on your anniversary! Secondly, I think I might be able to help you, as I have gone through this situation almost to the letter! The bangles you have described sound absolutely beautiful, and I am sure that you will love them. One way that I was able to wear the bangles that were too big for me was to wear other, smaller, bangles that prevent the prettier ones from falling off. As long as the circumfrence of your smaller bracelets isn’t small enough to pass through the bangle, then you should be fine. Maybe you could give that a try? Good luck!  🙂 

    Post # 9
    441 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    MrsKing212:  I agree with this entirely. if you wear them in front of him and they keep falling off, he’ll see what has to be done. And as for the stones, do you think they’re pretty? If so, it doesn’t matter if they’re your birthstones or not. You can even train yourself to appreciate ugly things if you make an effort to think every time you look at them, “I am so lucky to have someone who wants to do nice things for me.” I’ve gotten a few clunker presents of jewelry from my FI and you know what, I learned to like them because they came from him. Besides, if you wear them a lot at first you can phase them out later.

    Post # 10
    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am a bit appalled that the jeweler didn’t say anything, since he has met you, knows that your ring size is very small (and so likely your wrist as well), and yet made a custom bangle without measurements.  Are bangles easy to size?  And I basically agree with PP; say what you can without lying (how thoughtful!  wow, I am so surprised!) and the either when he notices that night, or the next day otherwise, say that they are too big and you need to have them sized.  He should not be offended by this, something not fitting is not not being critical!  My engagement ring was too big just like yours, it happens.  I would not say anything about not usually wearing bracelets or the stones.  Then, when you are at the jewelers, maybe tell the jeweler what you do like/would like the next time your DH wants to get you something.  A good jeweler should be able to handle that-like, if your hustand goes back for another gift and asks for X, the jeweler can say “last time MissTexasFire was here, she loved Y and Z.”  Good luck and happy anniversary!

    Post # 11
    3637 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I wouldn’t think that the size should be an issue, surely they can be made smaller? 

    As for the stone being wrong, there really could be some other sort of significance that you aren’t thinking of. Do you have another sort of anniversary in July? 

    I don’t think this is a bad as it seems at first. The size issue will be taken care if (and then you can finally wear some beautiful bangles!) And even if the stones are “wrong” that won’t change how beautiful they are. With this in mind you should be able to actually be excited for them.

    Please let us know how it goes and don’t forget that we will want photos later 😉

    Post # 12
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    What would I do? I would wear the bracelets as long as it was physically possible. I would mention a week or so later that I’d like to have the jeweler see if he could make them smaller if I truly couldn’t wear them. Most of all, I would feel loved by my husband for trying to do something as sentimental as this.

    Post # 13
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I would pretend to love them, and I would make an effort to wear them on date nights or something.

    Post # 14
    2632 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Out of curiosity, how are you sure the bangles are custom?

    FI got me an aquamarine earring and necklace set once because even though my birthstone is sapphire, and he liked the sapphire set better, it was set in yellow gold and he knows I usually prefer white metal and just like the color blue.

    If they were a custom piece wouldn’t he have had them done in the proper size, regardless of the stones used? 

    Post # 15
    8678 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Where’s the option to have you wear the bangles as long as you can and then just resize it?<br /><br />I don’t think this is worth getting upset over. Your husband wanted to do something thoughtful and kind for you. How would you feel if you put effort into giving him something and he just put it away and you never saw it again? Pretty hurt I bet, so if you just ignore this issue, he’ll likely notice and be hurt and that will stunt him from doing random acts of kindness again.<br /><br />I’d let the gem issue go. It’s a gem. It’s probably very lovely. Appreciate it for what it is.<br /><br />Wear the bangles and go “It’s a little big, I think I’ll talk to [jeweler] and see if they can size it down a bit for me. It’s beautiful, I love it, thank you.” and call it a day.

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