Post # 1
Hi! I got a dress a few months ago and even when I bought it, I did not feel like it was the dress for me. I had felt a lot of pressure to buy it and although I started out my wedding planning with a cynical "as long as my dress is white, floor length, and looks good than I will be fine" attitude, I am feeling like everything has been pulled out from under me in my wedding planning, and that having a dress I feel gorgeous in would be best. I bought my dress for $170, so, it is not like I will be breaking the dress budget by getting another that I love if I can find one at a good price. Im torn between my practical side which says "what are you thinking" and my emotional side that says "you get one wedding, one day, and you should feel beautiful"…
What should I do? There is a picture of me in the dress in the polls. (I am new to this site so please forgive me if I am confusing).
Post # 3
I say it’s your wedding, and you shouldhave the dress you feel amazingly gorgeous in, and if this one isn’t it, don’t feel bad about re-selling it and looking again!
Post # 4
I bought a dress that I loved, but it turned out one of my good friends who is getting married a few weeks before me got the same one! I was so torn over what to do. I called Davids Bridal and explained what happened. They said I could come back and and get something of equal or greater value (since I just picked my dress up and it hadn’t been altered). I went there with an open mind, telling myself if I didn’t find a dress that I liked as much then I would just stick with the one I had. However, I did find another dress that I love just as much! It was more but I think worth it to have my own individual dress on my wedding day. Not one I just saw my friend get married in.
So I say go for it! Your dress wasn’t that expensive, and if you don’t feel like it’s the one, go look again. I’m sure you’ll find one that you do fall in love with! Oh- and try on dresses that you think you wouldn’t like, you’ll be surprised that the "one" pops out of nowhere!
Post # 5
Reselling the dress is a great idea. Perhaps you could post it in the classifieds, or find a nice consignment shop.
Otherwise, is there anything you could do to alter it to the dress you want to wear? Alterations, changing the neckline, added sparkle or ribbon or other embellishments can do wonders. (I’m kind of new as well, so not sure how to get to the photo)
Post # 6
Try uploading the picture again, I don’t think it worked.
I think you should look a little more, try on a few more and then go back to that one and compare it. Any chance you secretly want a dream dress you can’t afford and resent that dress because of it? Chances are no matter which dress you end up with, everyone there will think you look amazing. If you really just don’t feel pretty in it then find a new one.
Post # 7
This is a common issue for many brides. I’m in the same boat! I put a deposit on a dress…now I look at the pictures and I am disgusted. How could I have liked that dress?? Oh well.
I say put your dress up for resale on preownedweddingdress.com, bravobride.com, or oncewed.com and go find the dress you really want! Because how you feel in your dress will translate in your pictures. Go for it!!
Post # 8
Thanks so much to everyone for writing! I am so torn. I am so frugal! Thank you to <font size="2" color="#81a026">Jeska June20</font> because I am going to David’s to look for another dress and that is where I got my dress originally! I was worried because they said that all sales are final, but I am more hopeful now. I just feel like I am being so spoiled, but my fiance and I are paying for our wedding. He says that at the end of the day, it is our committment to each other that matters and althought I agree 100%, I do not want to go through the pomp of circumstance (not to mention the money) if we do not get to enjoy it all. He and I are both in school at the moment and so money is tight. I suppose so much has gone wrong with the planning, like bridesmaids from hell and my dad is not even coming to the wedding. Long stories of course, but I really believe I need to make some of this for me and stop worrying about everyone else. Is this a bad attitude?
Post # 9
PS–I think this dress would be great for a beach/outdoor wedding, but we are having a formal wedding at night with a reception that will serve dinner…
Post # 10
I just want to say that the dress looks beautiful on you but I agree it’s probably best for a casual or beach wedding.
I say go for it and get something that makes you feel like a million bucks. With all eyes on you, you want to feel at your best.
Post # 11
Thank you for the sweet compliment! I am going to look tonight at dresses. I need to get the stress of it off my mind and find other options. Thanks for the advice.
Post # 12
I like it! You look beautiful! It could be a nice simple, elegant dress for an evening wedding. Accessories can do a lot.
But, do what makes you happy, $170 isn’t too much to be out. You shouldn’t have much trouble selling it and getting your cash back.
Post # 13
I think you look great but…
If you don’t feel gorgeous, don’t keep it.
I spent $150 on a custom birdcage veil from Unveiled Bridal Designs and cried and cried when it came in and didn’t look right with my gown. I sold it on ebay for $150. No loss.
Post # 14
Wow! I think you look awesome in that dress. I think once you have accessories it would be lovely at a night wedding.
That said- what matters most if how you feel in the dress- not how other people think you look.
Having only paid $170 you can totally justify getting another dress that feels good on you!
Post # 15
I say have fun and look for another one…it can’t hurt! After I got my dress, I tempted fate and still continued to play – with each new dress I tried on I fell more and more in love with my orginal dress. Plus, going after you have bought a dress releaves all the pressure! Have some fun with it!!!!
Post # 16
You look absolutely stunning, but do what makes you happy. You could easily sell the first dress as it’s so pretty. I do agree it seems a bit casual for your wedding, too. Go find something you love!