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posted 4 months ago in Reception
  • poll: Where should we hold our reception?
    Venue #1 : (6 votes)
    29 %
    Venue #2 : (15 votes)
    71 %
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    Busy bee
    Novella    July 7, 2012   Australia

    My FI and I have our reception venue narrowed down to two choices. Both venues are holding our desired date for us. The problem is that they are in different places and have different pro's/con's and we are starting to disagree somewhat on what we want. I also can't pin down exactly what I want so that makes it hard when we talk about it.

    Venue #1:

    • is in the town I grew up in - my parents want it in this town
    • Has FANTASTIC customer service
    • Is pretty much a blank slate in a good way - we can customise it to our hearts content and make it really "us"
    • It's a tiny bit cheaper
    • Good food
    • On site accomodation for our guests

    Venue #2:

    • Is where FI & I live - FI REALLY wants it here
    • Is grand and impressive 
    • Friendly staff
    • Not very customisable but felt like "us" so that wouldn't matter

    The main issue I think is the location of the venues. FI feels that if venue #1 was where we live now he wouldn't consider it and I think it would still be somewhere at the top of the list mainly due to the highly helpful staff. I also always dreamed of getting married where I grew up but admit that it would be easier to plan if it was where we live now (it's a few hours drive to where I grew up). FI thinks that our guests will not want to come if it is there but just under half the guests are from where we live now and just over half from other places so I don't really think it matters.

    What do you bee's think? I need some advice :-)

     
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    Busy bee
    lindsey_k_16    June 9, 2012   Muskegon, MI

    I say go with your heart. It sounds like they are both great. Planning wise, and because your FI loves the one near you, I say go with the one in your current location. Good luck!

     
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    Helper bee
    Kari 2012    June 2, 2012   Michigan

    I'm having my wedding in the town I grew up which is a few hours away. Its has been a little difficult to plan but it isn't that bad. FI's parents live in my home town but the rest of his family lives about 3 hours away. I don't think having to drive a few hours will keep your guests from coming. If you want it in your hometown I say go for it.

     
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    Helper bee
    Heartly       NYC

    Another thing to note is that while venue #1 is a tiny bit cheaper, it's a blank slate, and you will need to spend a lot of time and money pulling a look together. More time and money than venue #2, and it's not where you live. So while if they were both at home, it might not be a huge deal, it's possible it could raise the stress level of planning (esp from a distance). 

    Also, having to decorate a space will likely put venue #1 over the price of venue #2 - food for thought.

     
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    Bumble bee
    ohmybears48    September 28, 2013   Chicago, IL

    Who is paying? If your parents are, I'd have it in the venue 1. If not, then venue 2, since your FI loves it.

     
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    Busy bee
    LittleRiver    October 13, 2012   NYC

    @Heartly:  My thoughts exactly!

     
    7.
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    Busy
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    pengoala    September 4, 2011  

    My husband and I came down to the same dilemma, and in the end we chose the one closer to home.  The one thing I have to offer you is that on our wedding day, my parents forgot some things and very easily were able to drive home for them!

    All that being said, it does sound like you guys are leaning towards venue #2, and you should certainly go with your hearts!

    Good luck with the choice, choosing venue is the hardest part by far!! Once that is done, you can stop to take a little breather.

     
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    Busy bee
    bricon    July 20, 2012   Orlando, Florida

    I agree with a previous poster we have found that the blank costs a lot and some venues have a lot of rules about what you can do.

     

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