- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
So for the past 3 weeks or so, we’ve been a 2 cat household. Our first one, Lucy, we rescued from the streets when she was 6 weeks old and she’s been an only child for a year. She’s sweet, but she has a mean streak and only gives affection on her terms. She’s not violent, just snippy. Not the curl up on your lap type at all.
FI and I are gone about 10 hours/day during the week so we thought it might be a good idea to get her a playmate. EVERYONE kept telling us to do that, that 2 cats are better than 1 and really not more work. So we caved, did a lot of research and brought home the sweetest, floppiest female ragdoll mix, Khaleesi. They’re about 2 months apart in age.
We followed the plan of keeping them in seperate rooms for a solid week, feeding them on either side, opening the door so they could see and smell each other. Things were progressing nicely so we let them out together (maybe prematurely). Lucy (our first cat) was skeptical, hissed and growled a bit (normal), but would sniff and observe her not in a violent way. Khaleesi is just a love and was not bothered by the hissing, she just wants to play with Lucy and is curious of everything.
This week has been tumultuous. Khaleesi is getting very comfy with her surroundings and eats Lucy’s food, lays in Lucy’s spots, trys to steal all the attention, etc. She’s a sweety, but Lucy is not having any of it. Lucy will not leave this one spot in the kitchen when Khaleesi is out. She won’t poop. She’s vomitted in my FI’s shoe and we found another pile of vomit in our bedroom, she’s really stressed. Even if Khaleesi is distracted and across the room, Lucy will NOT come out. But the minute you close Khaleesi away, Lucy is FINE.
Of course, every friend with multiple cats has “never had this problem before”. Not even my FI when he had 2 cats growing up. Can this be normal? Based on articles I’ve read, we plan on starting the whole process over again this weekend, keeping them completely separate. It bothers me on so many levels b/c I don’t want to have to return this new one; I’m in LOVE with her. Also, if this is Lucy’s attitude towards her, how can we ever get a dog in the future like we plan? What is she going to be like with children? Is it still too new to tell?
Maybe we just haven’t given it enough time, but I’d love to hear from anyone who has been or is in a similar situation with pets. Cats are new to me (dogs all my life) so I don’t know if this is just par for the course or we really have a problem on our hands. Thanks for reading this novel!!!!