Post # 1
Good Evening Ladies, Im in a bit of a pinch. I am a 40 year old second time bride and wanted something classy and beautiful. My one requirement was for my dress to have 3/4 sleeves and I couldn’t find anything suitable at any of the stores I went to. So I found a pic of a dress I liked and paid a professional to custom make my wedding gown.
Heres theproblem…..it makes me feel young and juvenile. I feel like it looks like a flower girl dress. My sister loves it and thinks its beautiful but Im not sold. Ive pretty much spent any money that I had budgeted for a dress , so Im not sure the option is to go out and find something else. Can anyone give an honest opinion on the dress and how I look or maybe any ideas on how to change it a bit and make it more mature?
Thanks Ladies !
Post # 2
It’s a lovely dress. Maybe you could switch up the belt? Try a sparkly one with no bow at the back?
Post # 3
You look beautiful in your dress. I imagine, though, that the only thing that makes you think “juvenile” is the poufy skirt. Perhaps a layer could be removed, or if you are wearing a crinoline you could eliminate it? That would allow the skirt to flounce less and make it a sleeker look. But even if you don’t change a thing, you look great.
Post # 4
You do NOT look like a flower girl!!! It’s beautiful!! I do agree with PP though that the bow in the back is a little juvenile.
And how are you 40?!! You don’t even look 30!!
Post # 5
I agree- it looks like a first holy communion dress. I would remove the sash and use a rhinestone belt instead if you are really set on a belt/sash and also remove the sleeves to make the dress strapless and use a 3/4 sleeve shrug or bolero instead
Post # 6
I don’t feel it looks juvenile at all.
If I were to change anything, perhaps changing the neckline to more of a deep V instead of the off the shoulder? Or removing some skirting material so it sits a little flatter and isn’t so poofy on the bottom?
I like it as is but I can understand how you feeling comfortable in the dress is the most important thing
Post # 7
I think the top half is lovely but I’m not sold on that sash or what looks like a one piece tulle overlay on the skirt that those appliqués extending down past your waist are attached to. The belt is an easy change. Maybe something thinner and with more bling that is actually sewn into the dress so you don’t have the bow at the back or dangling ribbon ends.
As for the skirt…it’s hard for me to tell what is under that tulle but it looks pretty. The tulle that the seamstress put over it, especially the most outer layer is what is making the dress look a bit flower girl ish.
I think if she used organza Instead, it would fall much nicer. I would also extend the appliqués down a bit further. OR I would scrap the appliqués completely and have it be just organza past where the belt hits. I included some pictures.
Post # 8
jennibear : The dress is lovely and doesnt look like a kids dress. I do however agree with another poster that said ditch the belt and get something else without a bow. Bows do remind me of little girls and flower girls.
Post # 9
I’ll echo everyone who says get rid of the bow, that for sure will make it more adult. Also, I’d forego the veil as well. Tulle veil plus tulle skirt tends to look a little First Communion. Otherwise, it’s a nice dress – but get what makes YOU happy!
Post # 10
The only thing that makes it look a bit flower girl like is the shiny big belly with a bow. Find something more elegant.
Post # 11
It’s beautiful and you look like a stunning and happy bride. I love that you went with your dream dress. Good for you!
The only thing I would change is either the color of the satin on the belt (silver would be elegant and bridal) and instead of a bow do a flat knot or as pp mentioned go with a thin all bling belt with no tie.
Post # 12
The bodice of this dress is completely perfect on you, and I think with a couple changes this can work really well! I’d agree with other posters who suggested losing the sash and removing the tulle overlay on the skirt, as well as skipping the long veil. I think a birdcage or something could work well with this and would be a more “grown up” look.
One other idea that I wonder if you’d consider: what about shortening the dress to a tea length? Probably after taking off that tulle overlay/reducing skirt volume a little. I know that sounds drastic, but I think it could be really good and might take this in a more sophisticated direction. Also a chance to show off some cute shoes. Something like this:
Post # 13
Definitely change the belt! My other thought was to maybe get rid or the rhinestones that are attached to the flowers in the top of where the skirt begins if that makes sense.
Post # 14
jennibear : First- I think you look great in it!
Second- the only thing that looks juvinile to me is the belt and bow. Switch it for something more narrow/without a bow.
Other things you could do- take off the bling on the skirt. Remove a layer of poof. Deepen the neckline. But really, it would be fine with just the belt change.
Post # 15
How about adding a bolero with a collar?