Post # 1
when FI and I were discussing what type of engagement ring I would want, i had originally told him 1 ct diamond solitaire, white gold setting. and thus that is what he proposed to me with. the only thing i had left out in this discussion was that i did not want a plain band, my fault for leaving out that important detail, and the band is a simple plain white gold band. this is my only problem with my E ring. i just cant get used to the fact of a plain band. i dont want to offend him by telling him i want to have the diamond re-set, because i know he already spent close to $6500.00 on the ring. just the band is very small and dainty and i have chubby fingers and it just doesnt fit as nicely as i would like it to. i would much rather have a diamond band that is a little thicker, just a single row of diamonds would make a world of difference. it has been a little over a month since we have been engaged, Christmas 2010, and i just cant seem to fall in love with my ring as much as i want to. what do i do?
Post # 3
I would talk to the FH, tell him that you are concerned that the band is too small for your hands. I think he will understand that. You might give a quick call to the jewelry store first and find out if you can exchange the band or how much it would cost to get it reset. It may not be that big of a deal and maybe that will soften it for him.
Post # 4
I was in the same situation actually! I had THOUGHT I wanted a plain solitaire. But after seeing another ring I kinda fell in love with that. My partner is all about what I’m happy with though so she didn’t mind a bit 🙂 Got the new ring almost 2 weeks ago and I’m always staring at it lol.
Post # 5
Do you think if you got the ring sized up about a half size, it would fit better?
I only say this because I have short, chubby fingers as well… and my engagement ring is the same as yours (1ct round solitaire, plain white gold band). It looked good on my finger until I got a wedding band… and then since my wedding band is thicker, it pushed my engagement ring up on my finger, which made my finger chub kind of stick out. So I got my engagement ring sized up, and now it looks good again.
That’s just a suggestion… but if you definitely have your mind set on a diamond band, then you need to talk to FI about it. I think as long as you explain that it isn’t his fault for not knowing you wanted a diamond band.
I got a diamond band wedding ring, which adds a lot of sparkle next to my plain band engagement ring.
Post # 6
After my FI first saw the band, he had them re-do it. I also have a solitaire with a plain band but instead of it being a thin band, it is evenly 3mm wide all the way around instead of tapering to a thinner size. Is it possible to just have gold added to thicken up the band?
I have abnormally long fingers so I understand the desire to not have the ring look “lost” on your finger.
Post # 7
This rings (pun totally intended) a little close to home. I told my fiance that the one ring I did not want was a single solitare on a plain band. and what did i get?! well, as we have been engaged for over a year, turns out he knew me a little better than i thought. he said all of the others he looked at, the bands took away from the sheer elegance of the stone. i LOVE my ring – I say give it a chance… and do what I plan to, which is what he suggested when he proposed – get your wedding band BLINGED out!
Post # 8
@Mrs.Kennedy: Honestly, if it were me I wouldn’t say anything. He got you the ring you had asked for and spent a lot on it. Maybe you can get it sized up and bling it up with two diamond eternity bands for either side of the setting once you’re married.
The only scenario I’d say something is if he asks specifically… I know you’re going to be wearing it for the rest of your life but it’s still a gift he picked out for you. Rings can always be changed once you’ve been married awhile. I wasn’t crazy about my original e-ring either, but after the engagement and wedding calmed down I felt a lot more confident in changing it and by then my husband didn’t care at all.
Post # 9
@Mrs.Kennedy: You can fix that with a great wedding band. Later you can change the semi mount for a birthday gift or something. I think you would seem rude complaining about a ring that you picked out. That’s frustrating.
Post # 10
I think it depends on your relationship with your SO. My FI is a pragmatist and when I wasn’t happy with the way my engagement band was fitting with wedding bands I just talked to him about it and we resolved it together. If you guys are like that then I would suggest bringing it up after calling the store where he purchased it and know what your options are.
On the other hand, if your SO is the type to put significance on “the ring he picked out for you” I would first try on your engagment ring with some wedding bands with diamonds and then decide if its worth it. I see a lot of women with plain silver engagement bands and diamond weddings bands and I think it looks amazing (and sparkly!).
Post # 11
Ok so I work at a jewelry store, and I see this scenario ALL the time! There is totally a way to compromise! Go to the jewelry store and look at the enhancer/wrap section! We carry a number of rings that the solitare “sits” in/under and it hides the solitare band….you pretty much just slide your original band under the new one (which usually has a few diamonds) and it completely transforms a plain solitare band into more of a “unity” band!! They are stunning, affordable, AND make a world of difference!! This way you wouldn’t have to have yours reset and both of you win!! 🙂
If you have any other questions, just PM me! Brandy
Post # 12
@pinksugar23: i never thought of that. ill have to go look at some and see whats out there. hopefully i can find something that replicates what i originally wanted while still keeping the entire e ring that FI picked out.
thanks to everyone, if any one else has any more advice or suggestions please keep them coming.
Post # 13
IMHO I wouldn’t say anything and just make up for it with a ‘wrap’ or solitaire enhancer for a wedding band. No use hurting his feelings and his wallet when you can just fix it with a wedding band, ya know?
Post # 14
Haha I didn’t see that someone already suggested that. Whoops. Repetitive!
Post # 15
Maybe you could get a fancier wedding ring to enhance the overall look.
Post # 16
As some have suggested a wrap may get it close to what you were looking for. I wanted a halo engagement ring and ended up with a solitare on a pave diamond band (more of what you wanted I think). However, I found a wrap for my ring that gave me even a better look than a halo in my opinion. Here’s a pic of it in the wrap