- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
My relationship with my father is basically non existent. He never liked childern so growing up I was always scared of him. He has been verbally abusive to my mother, sister, brother & myself for our entire life. I have no memories of even getting so much as a hug or pat on the shoulder. No one other then my mom sister & brother know about the way he is. Its kind of a family secret. (personally I think my mother has never gotten divorced b/c he makes a lot of money). Now that I’m 29 years old and getting married, my mom says I HAVE to dance with him or else it will look bad. She is worried how it will look to the guests who don’t know the REAL type of person he is. My wedding will be the first time this man has ever touched me. I can’t imagine dancing with a man that has made me scared & sad my entire life. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Can someone give me suggestions on how to deal with this??
I don’t want to dance with him and I dont know how to get out of it!! I’m also at the point where I need to start picking song out and there are no songs that depict our non existant relationship. I’m NOT his little girl. I’m (as he has put it many times) “worthless”. Does anyone have suggestions for VERY short father daughter songs? and ones that aren’t about “daddys little girl”??
BTW for the ceremony, my mom told me that she will walk down the isle with him & me so that I don’t feel so awkward.
- This topic was modified 2 years, 12 months ago by Bean8109.