(Closed) Help! I don't want to invite my sisters..should i?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@bbridetobee:  Maybe talk to them about it? You guys’ relationship isn’t a secret from one another. Talk to them, let them know your thoughts, let them know you want to be closer, but ask if they even have an interest in going.

Post # 4
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If I were in your situation I would not invite them. Especially if they don’t seem to be as invested in a relationship as you do.

Post # 5
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you aren’t actually close to them I don’t see the problem with not inviting them.  If you are truly having a small wedding, they should be understanding. 

It isn’t like you hang out all the time.  Think about it, if they are upset with you, it isn’t as if the relationship is going to change from good to bad afterwards, right? 🙂


Post # 6
1586 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t invite them and if they ask, then work on it. If you really don’t want to, explain how small your wedding is going to be.

Post # 7
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@bbridetobee:  No. Don’t invite them. You tried your best to make the relationship work but it’s pretty clear they’re not making it worth your time so I say don’t bother. If you guys didn’t share a father then you’d have cut them out of your life ages ago, right? It seems like they sort of go out of their way to leave you out, so you don’t have to extend the privilege of a wedding invitation to them. Your wedding is going to be small so why sacrifice inviting prople who have been there for you for these two who from the sounds of things might not even turn up?  


Post # 8
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sounds like they wouldn’t even go if you did invite them.


I’d say stick to people you really want there especially if it’s small.   I didn’t invite my sisters, but only after they told me up front they could not come.

Post # 9
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bbridetobee:  I would invite them, and their husbands. The bottom line is there is a deep “blood” connection because you share a father. They may not attend, but I think it’s a nice gesture. I think Sister #1 (who seems to desire a relationship with you) will feel more comfortable coming if sister #2 is invited.

I wouldn’t be harsh on them on having outings without you. They are sisters, they have grown up together and known each other all their lives. You are like a distant relative. I don’t think it’s at all strange that they meet near your house and don’t invite you.

ETA: Oh wait, if you say you’re on a tight budget it’s ok to not invite them. I’m just saying, that ideally and with a large guest list, it’s nice to.

Post # 10
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think that if you want to keep the possiblity of forging a stronger relationship with them, then you should invite them. If you are okay with status quo, or less, than you do not have to invite them.

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